AITA.
So my friend wanted to go to Austin for her birthday and I agreed to go. Two weeks before the trip though, she cancelled because she couldn’t afford the Airbnb. The problem is, I had already taken time off work and so had my friend Derek. We weren’t about to let those days go to waste.
Since Derek and I had already been loosely planning a Big Bend trip, we just moved it up to that week. We made a separate group chat to organize everything and honestly, we didn’t think much of it. Lil D even asked if she wanted to come, and we said yeah, sure.
And ngl the trip was actually a blast. We hit one of the rivers, went to the hot springs, found a great restaurant, and even crossed the border. She ended up joining us, didn’t throw in for the Airbnb, gas, or food, and had a whole trip on us. The whole time though she had a RBF while everyone else was having the time of their lives, cracking jokes and just vibing. She did not want to be there at all.
Then after the fact, she hit me with “you’re a dick for not going to Austin for my birthday.” Meanwhile, I already had a reservation at a fancy restaurant to take her out the following week.
Oh and she hates hiking, the outdoors, and road trips.
So… am I the d\*\*k here?
NTA. Someone is confused. She cancelled Austin, not you. If she wanted some help paying for it, say that. Is she beefing with lil D? I don’t see her position at all.
I would understand if YOU cancelled on HER, but SHE cancelled on YOU. She has not rock to stand on. And to come on a trip JUST to be passive aggressive…
NTA, and time to cut her out.
NO! And Big Bend is amazing. Went when we lived in Texas and went back one more time after moving away. It’s a fantastic place and if she wanted fancier she could’ve tried the Gage Hotel in Marathon. Not in BB but close to it.
The saddest thing I heard recently was Ice Barbie wanted to put a border wall through Big Bend. Nevermind the river rafting businesses that would be ruined and the fact that much of it faces the Chihuahan Desert with cactus so short you couldn’t hide a toddler behind one and you can see anyone trying to cross for miles. Oh, but I think she just got fired so maybe BB is safe from her clutches.
Anyhow, congrats on doing Big Bend. Best kept secret in the National Park system and well worth the drive. For the uninitiated it’s not the middle of nowhere, but you can definitely see the middle of nowhere from Big Bend.
NTA that trip sounds amazing but as an indoor cat I would not have gone. So why did she ?clearly it wasn’t her vibe. She’s TA for her RBF.