I am a solo father who has two children of 6 and 8 years old. I split from their mother a few years ago.
Over the years, I have contributed time, effort and money into their school and extra curricular activities. Some of which include surf life saving, swimming, cricket, scouts and piano lessons.
None of these have been initiated or funded by the mother yet there always seems to be enough money for her to have cocktail nights with her friends, go away to concerts and have her and her alder daughters nails done regularly.
Recently when I brought up that I was struggling without her support she said that her new man (of a month) would be able to pay for the kids activities.
I mentioned to her that, the way in which that was phrased to me was a little strange. I said it’s not a big deal or anything but i personally would have said, “now that I have some financial support around the house I’ll be able to afford to contribute towards them”
A while later I was speaking with the new guy and he had said that the kids mum had said that I told her he wasn’t allowed to pay for the activities at all and his money towards the kids activities would be kept secret, which was completely not true at all and I’d never say anything like that.
To me, shouldn’t the mum want to be the one showing up for the kid as opposed to nominating the new guy. In any case the interpretation of what I said was completely misconstrued