Im sorry if this is poorly written, this is my first post of this style.
I’m a 15M and I have a girlfriend 15F. We’ve been together since November. When I asked her to be my girlfriend, after she said yes, I also asked if we should keep this as a secret (I had no problem with either), and she said that this shouldn’t be a secret at all, that she’s fine being openly a couple. I repeat, we explicitly agreed to be public. For context, the guys in my school are for some reason always asking everyone is they already have a girlfriend, and mock them if they don’t. When they finally asked me, I said yes. These guys were in complete shock, since I’m the quiet art guy that nobody talks to. This shock caused them to start asking intensely who she was. I was overwhelmed of having 5 guys insisting so much so I told them, and this incident didn’t repeat. We started talking less due to final exams on December. Fast forward to 2 weeks ago, she called me, she was angry, she accused me of bragging about her being my girlfriend, that I saw her as a trophy and that we didn’t talked about being a public couple. I tried to explain myself, that I didn’t brag, I answered yes to the question of having a girlfriend and told her name because I was overwhelmed, and that literally the same night that I proposed to her I asked about it to which she sad yes. The told me that I was a dick and a liar. After that she hung up the call and blocked me. I’ve been trying to talk to her but I couldn’t. I honestly don’t think I’m in the wrong her since I didn’t break what we established that night, but I need a second impartial opinion. Am I the asshole for hurting my girlfriend’s feelings by telling people we are together?
NTA. Having to keep your relationship a secret is a giant red flag.
Why are you dating someone this immature?
Edit: I was 15 only a few years ago. This is pretty immature and extremely insecure behavior even for 15.
Because they’re both 15 and teenagers are immature?
Because they’re both 15 so they are immature
NTA, she’s being incredibly unreasonable and projecting the insecurities of how she’s perceived onto the situation. All you did was answer a question. Her response shows she might not be ready for a relationship at all. Then again, she’s 15.
NTA, one of the guys who gives you shit gave her negative attention (teasing) about this and she made you out to be a liar to avoid the embarrassment, joined them in mocking you and leaned into their attention. She could have genuinely liked you but just been a coward, or she could have seen you as settling for the best offer she had at the time, using you as a social stepping stone on her way up. Either way if everything you wrote is true it isnt your loss, she sucks.
NTA,sounds like there was some miscommunication or maybe those guys said something weird to her afterwards, but man oh man does this make me so, so, so grateful not to be a teenager trying to date. I’m glad that is long in the past.
NTA One of the guys probably said something stupid and she is worried about her reputation.
As long as you did not tell them that you did anything sexually with her you are NTA.
Ahhh, I don’t miss high school dating.
NTA. Calling and yelling at you, blaming you for something that isn’t your fault, then blocking you are all incredibly toxic yet typical things for a 15 year old to do, but it doesn’t mean you need to take them. Move on and cut your losses, cause I highly doubt the relationship is gonna get much better. Good luck kid
This shit is why I didn’t date in high school 😅
NTA! As hard as this may be to hear you should move on. You’re still young, there will be plenty of people better for you. Find someone that isn’t embarrassed of you. Trust me there will be someone out there!
You couldn’t pay me enough to be 15 again.
NTA, can’t explain why she would do that, but you’re okay dude
it sounds like she’s embarrassed to be your girlfriend, otherwise, why couldn’t you tell people? you did nothing wrong. just move on and find someone that actually wants to be with you.
NTA – things like this might feel big right now, but in a few years you’ll just shake your head. Sounds like she’s not good at communication and probably has some insecurity that she was reacting to. Everything feels big and important in your teen years. It’s a huge period of development – psychological, social, and physical. Try not to let it get to you.