Hello, I (16F) am struggling with a situation involving some friends and need an outside perspective.
Three of my friends (all the same age) kept “shipping” me with a guy friend that don’t like romantically. I repeatedly told them to stop because it made me uncomfortable, but they continued. At first, I tried joking and satirical responses to hint I wasn’t interested (for example: "Oh yeah I totally really like \_\_\_\_) but they kept pushing.
Eventually, I added a close friend to our group chat for support. Together, we called out the behavior and expressed that it was crossing boundaries. After that, some of the friends said I overreacted and acted antagonistic. One specifically framed it as if I had been malicious, telling me I was **throwing a tantrum,** even though I never insulted them.
I feel hurt because I’ve been repeatedly dismissed in the past, for example, they often say “shut up” to me in conversations, and this situation felt like a continuation of that pattern. My goal was never to be malicious; I just wanted to make it clear that my boundaries needed to be respected – I never feel respected around them.
Now, I feel like I just lost three people who I thought were my friends, and I’m wondering if I handled this inappropriately or if I was justified in standing up for myself.
**So, AITA in this situation?**
i think you are justified in standing up for yourself. they should’ve respected your boundaries instead of pushing it.
ESH. I know you’re all kids but holy crap is this incredibly immature. You added people not related to the initial issue was obviously not going to do anything but at drama. I don’t think anyone hear sounds like friends.