I have a friend that I met playing COD. We have met in person we hung out. We went on a friend vacation. Long story short he is young early 20s and moved out on his own. He was struggling and I helped buy him groceries, loaned him money, and helped pay his bills. He recently moved back in with family and has to find his own place. He sent me money to save for him to get a place. It has been almost two weeks and I have not heard anything from him. Totally out of the ordinary we usually talk every day to every other day. So I messaged him checking in on him. Here’s where it gets weird. He told me about some issues going on and then proceeded to say he didnt want to play the game whi h I explained thats not why I was getting ahold of him I was just messaging to check on him as friends would. His reply was not trying to be rude but I havent had a reason to get ahold of you. That really hurt my feelings because I thought we were friends. Now I feel like he’s just been using me. So AITA if I just cut all ties and keep the money He has saved since he technically owes me money that he has yet to pay back. I’m a good person and would never do someone that way but what I have doent even cover what is owed to me.
Sincerely,
A hurt friend
Apparently he owes more than the held money if my reading is correct
Yes he does
It depends. You “helped him buy groceries, loaned him money, and helped pay his bill” according to you, were any of these gifts? For example did you ever say “don’t worry about it” after he stated he would pay you back?
I’m 41 years old and I can could on 1 hand how many times I did NOT keep my word. That hurts a lot more than a few thousand dollars.
No everything he owes me comes upto a little over $1300. I did get him groceries that I told him not to worry about so that is not what was added in the total of money borrowed and money needed to pay bills which was also borrowed.
Then your conscience is clear. Just need to make sure you are legally good, and physically good just in case he comes after you.
I have seen people kill over WAY less money. Just be careful. Plenty of dead people in the cemetery who were morally correct.
Right lol. I am good both. He doesn’t live near me he lives in another state. Legally nothing can be done he sent the money to me I also have messages that states he borrowed money from me. There are none that says what the money he sent to me was for. He has no legal standing. I just hate it has come to this.
YTA if you keep his money.
If you want to cut ties because he hasn’t talked to you in a few weeks, fine. But you need to return his money.
Even though he owes me money.
Its not because he doesn’t want to talk to me. The issue is he made it sound like the only reason he talks to me or needs to talk to me is when I am helping him. That doesn’t sound like a friend to me. So, why should I be the friend and help him save money for a place when he owes me money?
It’s not clear in what you’re saying if he actually owes you money.
So he does owe me money. He has not payed me back for what I did loan him. He has sent money to me to hold for him to save up for his own place. Now he is treating me terribly and showing he basically used me. So if I keep the money am I the asshole even though he owes me money.
You’re NTA, but know that he will accuse you of having stolen his money. Nothing he can do, but just be prepared.