My wife, her friend, and I planned to go to a concert this past weekend. I’ll call the friend “Julie.”
A few months ago, I bought three tickets all together. Julie paid us back in cash for her ticket.
The day before the concert, Julie suddenly backed out. By that point, I had already picked up the physical tickets.
At first, we told Julie she could still come pick up her ticket if she wanted to sell it or do something else with it. She didn’t. She made no effort to retrieve it. We even tried to find a buyer for her ourselves, but nothing worked out right away.
After that, Julie told us to just keep the ticket or throw it away.
I thought tossing it was a complete waste, so I decided to find a buyer myself and sell it. I ended up doing the coordination, messaging, and logistics to make the sale happen.
Here’s where the conflict is: I think I should keep the money from the sale because Julie abandoned the ticket and explicitly said to keep it or throw it away, and she made zero effort to handle it. My wife thinks keeping the money makes me the asshole and that I should give Julie the money (or at least offer it to her).
AITA?
*Edit: I’ve clarified with my wife that her “friend” is actually just a coworker. I’ve never met this person. If she was* *an* *actual friend, this would be a different story – I’d offer the money back.*
*Edit 2: A lot of the “YTA” takes seem based on the idea that I made my wife’s work situation stressful. I agree with that premise. If this had created any stress for her at work, I wouldn’t have done it. But my wife isn’t worried about workplace fallout. My wife still thinks selling the ticket and keeping the money was an asshole move. I don’t. We’re posting here to settle a friendly debate.*
You paid for them first, -> yours.
She pays it back, -> now it’s hers.
She then says keep it or throw it away -> now it’s yours again.
She has given up this ticket to you to do with as you see fit, take the money, have fun with it, and just tell her you threw it away. Problem solved. Your wife is just afraid Julie will find out and be an ass about it.
NTA; Other person relinquished all value of the ticket by telling you to keep it. Under that understanding, if someone tells you to keep something (or throw it away) than you are free to do with it what you please.
How much was the ticket? If it was 10 bucks I’d probably keep it, but if it was 100 and the person who paid for it was a friend, I’d return the cash (because they are a friend).
Maybe im also an asshole, but ur NTA to keep the money. Selling a ticket is a lot of work to do last minute and she said she didn’t want it. She didn’t even sound interested when you mentioned selling it for her
Julie forfeited her ticket. You could have thrown it away as directed by her but you made the effort and sold the ticket Julie forfeited. NTA
Offering the money back would be nice, not required. so nta
She said to throw it away. She doesn’t want the money. You did all the work from the first ticket purchase. You get the money.
YTA, because you are putting your wife in an uncomfortable position at her job. If you told her already that you guys sold it then refund her the money, honestly you aren’t obligated to but it more a good faith situation.
***”Julie told us to just keep the ticket or throw it away.”***
\—Julie decided to gift it. NTA.
This should be the top comment. Because Julie said this, she gave up any rights to the money or the ticket.
This is one of those “technically NTA”, but really? Just give the friend the money. Pat yourself on the back for doing this person a solid and bank the life karma.
How would Julie even know WHAT happened to the ticket?
NTA
She said keep it or throw it away. At that point she has verbally given you permission to do with as you wish.
How much was the ticket and how much did you sell it for?
As I understand:
1. You bought the tickets.
2.Julie paid you for the ticket
3. You attempted to sell the ticket without luck
4. Julie said not to worry about trying to sell the ticket, feel free to just give it away or get rid of it
5. You sold the ticket
So you were paid twice for the ticket, once by Julie and once by a stranger. If the amount you got back was less than or equal to the amount paid for the ticket, it should all go to recouping the original cost, which means it goes back to Julie.
She was abandoning the ticket because she didn’t want it to be a burden for you.
If the amount it sold for was more than the original cost, Julie should be made whole. Whether you keep the difference or not is a fair question – I likely wouldn’t but I would not call you and AH for doing so.
YTA for double dipping.