My sister (50s) is the family member with whom no one can be angry or upset…at least not outwardly. Any protests are met with "you know how she is" and "be the bigger person." For awhile I (40s) as the youngest was told to be kind because my sister had a hard life. Unless there are secrets to which I’m not privy, this is due to her own choices: Mom and Dad encouraged her to finish her degree before marriage, but my sister (I’ll call her Ate) insisted on dropping out, getting married at having kids before she was 25, then finishing college in her 40s.
Ate is not always the nicest person. Of my now adult niblings, two are no surprise, and the third announced that she wants to start her own traditions with her husband and kids.
We were having lunch with our other sister (let’s call her Sanse) when all this came out. I didn’t react when Ate made the announcement. I’m surprised all of this didn’t happen sooner.
Here’s where I might be the AH: I couldn’t stop the choked laugh when Ate said she was shocked because she loves and did everything for her kids.
She asked me if I thought it was funny and I said no. She asked then why did I laugh. As nicely as possible, I reminded her that my nieces remember things differently.
I got yelled at, which is nothing new. Sanse said that I wasn’t wrong, but I shouldn’t have kicked Ate while she was down. I didn’t need to point out that she’s remembering things differently.
AITA?
YTA, because your post makes zero sense.
Yeah English is not my 1st language and I’m having trouble understanding what OP is saying, maybe their 1st language is also different
This is indecipherable.
YTA. Yeah, your sister sounds exhausting, and as a result her kids don’t want to spend Christmas with her. Laughing at her and poking at her when she’s feeling down is always an AH move, though. That wasn’t necessary or kind. Sanse is right.
What?
You are, the post didn’t make sense either
Without more information, YTA. There’s an undercurrent here that your sister is a shitty person who deserves this but you don’t give any specifics to back that up.
YTA. Sounds like you’re instigating… You all sound tiring.
This post is all over the place.
You were in your mid to late 20s in a post from a year ago
Now you’re in your 40s
https://www.reddit.com/r/pettyrevenge/s/lH6vRsG30C
YTA. You can tell the truth, but if your delivery or timing is harsh, you’re still being an AH.
Your post didn’t make it very easy to follow your reasoning, but in any case, kicking someone whilst their down is an AH move.
Do you mean “no contact” instead of “no surprise”? I’m having trouble deciphering this post.
INFO
Not enough information to decide if she’s an AH or not. But I’m getting the sense that you and your sister are not so different.
Huh??? 😒