So me and my friend went to the mall after school last Friday. This isn’t the first time this happened, but she “forgot” her wallet. Again. Every single time we hang out, somehow she doesn’t have money, and I end up paying, and she says she’ll pay me back. She barely ever does.
This time we were at the food court and she ordered like a whole combo meal and a smoothie. When it was time to pay she just looked at me and was like “you got me right?” I told her I didn’t bring extra money and only had enough for myself. She got annoyed and said I was being selfish and embarrassing her in public.
I paid for my food only and went to sit down. She didn’t order anything after that and just stood there mad. Later she said she wanted to go to another store, but I told her I was leaving because I felt used. She said I was overreacting and that real friends don’t care about money.
I ended up going home without her (her mom picked her up later). Now she’s texting me saying I left her stranded and that I’m fake for choosing money over our friendship.
I feel kinda bad because maybe I could’ve just paid and dealt with it later, but I’m tired of feeling like her wallet.
AITA?
NTA. She knows exactly what she is doing. A real friend would pay you back immediately if they actually forgot their wallet. She should be ashamed.
THANK YOU, like she does this all the time and im genuinely going broke😭
You’d be well within your right to never hang out with her again, but start asking her BEFORE leaving if she has her wallet moving forward. If she says no, tell her you’re cancelling.
And if she comes at you about being selfish and “choosing money over friendship”, you can respond, “what is selfish is you never pay me back after I generously LOAN you money. If our friendship ends because I refuse to be your ATM, YOU are the one choosing money over friendship and I’m ok with that.”
NTA – real friends don’t mooch and get angry over money. Keep standing up for yourself and you will find some real friends
> I was being selfish and embarrassing her in public.
Projection at its finest. NTA.
Stop hanging out with this person, she isn’t your friend. She’s using you for as long as you will let it go on.
lol, she wanted to go to another store? for what? so she could have you buy stuff for her after she failed to get you to buy food for her? or so she could spend the money she “did not have”?
it’s easy to say real friends don’t care about money when all you do is spend it for them.
nta
NTA cut the leach off. She is not a friend.
NTA Trust me, it never gets any better with grifters like her. They get more and more manipulative and gaslighting. You’re better off without her.
NTA. This person isn’t your friend, she is using you. I had a similar friend in high school and I stupidly let them treat me that way because I was shy and didn’t have a lot of friends. It’s one of my biggest regrets: not standing up for myself and knowing that I deserved to be treated better than that.
You did exactly the right thing. She is a bad friend who is actually choosing money over friendship by always expecting you to pay and then not paying you back immediately. Absolutely if she forgets once help her out, as long as she pays you back thats all good. But its not ok for her to do it regularly especially without paying you back. Never let anyone treat you like an ATM.
NTA.
NTA. Your “friend” knew exactly what she was doing. Can you honestly say she would do the same thing for you multiple times?
Hon, you don’t have a friendship. You have a mooch. Or a leech, whichever works. NTA and make a promise to yourself that you will never let anyone take financial advantage of you again.
NTA
>real friends don’t care about money
That goes both ways. A real friend is your friend even when you don’t buy them things.
NTA just throw her own words back at her, if she was really your friend she wouldn’t care that you don’t pay for her all of the time. Real friends don’t care about money, right?