part 1. I count not post the full part, so here is p.1
I don’t hate my sister at all. I love her so much, but I just envy her life, like she is such a lucky girl compared to me. Like I wish I could have half of the attention/compliments she gets, but I would not say that I am unattractive. I am like a 6.5/10, and she is obviously a 10/10. Growing up i was the more " book " smart, and she was " street " smart. From middle school and high school, she always had male attention, yet stayed loyal to the same guy she had been dating since middle school. And they are cute together had all the cute relationship events. But I never did. I can’t blame myself because I was like a 4/10 looks up until my 11 grade, I decided to "glow up". I eventually got my first bf that summer, and it was nice I could finally be happy like her, or so I thought. The guy I was dating at the time told me the only reason he was dating me was that I was " somewhat good looking but not like your sister tho" he then tried to laugh it off, but I genuinely felt a pit in my heart. I ended things with him because that was not the first time he said something like that. I did hear rumors that he was into my sister ( not surprised). But like I would say it kind of started from there that I would say my envy started to grow because imagine being told all ur life to be as pretty as your sister or act more like your sister because i am a nerd and geek over things like conspirers, manga/manwha, anime, coding, comics, and gaming and she is more preppy and trendy if you know what i mean. Even being told that my sister is more date able then me really did dig a hole for us. I am planning on going to Stanford College and starting over if I hopefully get in and start my own life, leaving my sister’s shadow. I have always dreamed of going to Stanford uni it always been my dream school, so I applied for the early action and received my reply that I GOT IN. My whole family knew that I wanted to go to Stanford, it been a long dream ever since I was young. My sister, on the other had did not apply to it due to the passing of the deadline due date.
AITA for leaving my sister 18f to go to a out of state college?
part 2.
My sister and I are the oldest of our family ( technically, I am older, but meh), and I am not sure if it’s just my family, but my mom wants us to do everything together. Dressing the same, having the same interests, the same school, the same friend group, and all but me and her are like yin and yang, total opposites, like I might have more in common with a stranger than her. So when I told my parents that I got into Stanford, my mom did not look happy, but I felt something was off. My dad, on the other hand, was congratulating me on my accomplishment. And my sister was just standoffish. later night, my mom came into my room, and to sum it up, she said that im not going to Stanford. I WAS. DUMBFOUNDED. like what do you mean? I don’t get to go to the school I would literally sell my soul to get into, and she said, “Why should you go to a school that rejected your sister? Why are you turning your back on blood?” 1. Excuse me for what SHE DID NOT EVEN APPLY. plus she wants to do community college and stay in-state. 2. Turn my back on blood tbh me and my sister are not even close, not even a little, so I am confused about this turning my back on blood we have no common interest, we are not in the same friend group, and I don’t think we can hold a convo for at least a minute. And I am not gonna lie i got a bit emotional in the moment, told her that ” I do not care about what my sister does with her life, and if she wants to stay in state for a man i would never lower my lifestyle for a man.” u would have that i started ww3 my sister barge in my room calling me all kinds of names my mother also jumped in calling me all kind of think which include ( sl\*t, h\*e, b\*tch) and selfish and jelouse because i cant keep a man? wait whatttt. And all this for saying that she is staying in the state for a man. After what felt like ages, my dad ( my superhero) came and pushed my mother and sister out of the room. And tbh I could not even think after that, like am I selfish for actually going through with MY dreams. After like an hour, my dad came back and just reassured me that where ever i go, he will support me. My mom followed in like 30 min later, and she was pissed. All she told me was that if I go to Stanford and leave my sister i am no longer her daughter. And tbh I am overthinking it because I don’t want to lose my mom, but I know this is just one of her manipulation tactics. And I have been working when I was younger to save up to eventually move out, so this is not something new. She also said that she is keeping the car. Even though my sister already has a car, she said it’s getting passed down to my sibling, who, mind you, just turned 15 last year, and her birthday is in dec so she does not have her license or permeant so I know she is taking it just to be petty, but deep down it feels wrong. i dont know, am I the a-hole?
YOur mom is a toxic Ah, Go to stanford.
Hmmmmmmmm 🤔 going to a university that you can practically write your own paycheck for the rest of your life or stay at home and go to a community college with people who tell you all the time that your pretty sister needs everything handed to her on a silver platter and you should NEVER do better than her…..🤔……you would be the AH to yourself if you allowed your mother to rob YOU of this opportunity! Let your sister get married and become the baby factory your Mother wants her to be but do NOT let your mother drag you down!! Tell your mother you accept her terms and she needs to remember them and to NOT call, write or text you anymore of her garbage about how you need to destroy your life to make your sister look better…..🤦♀️…..go live your best life and remember when you graduate that you are NOT the family paycheck and do NOT owe your mother and sister a standard of living that You worked for….NTA and don’t be an AH to yourself!
NTA
,but your mom is yta
Do it if you have the money if there is no money just do something else that your sister is not doing
Go to Stanford.
Don’t worry about having a car in college – it’s usually more trouble than it’s worth.
You’ve got your dad on your side, so keep leaning on him.
You’ve got this.
NTA.
Make sure you go to Stanford, with or without your family’s support. They will forgive you (or they aren’t worth being in your life) but if you turn this down for them you’ll regret it forever. This could be the most important decision of your life.
NTA. You mum is a big one. She clearly favours your sister and that is just bad parenting. Fortunately, your dad is there for you. You absolutely must go to Stanford. You will regret for the rest of your life if you do not. Also, learn to use paragraphs.
NTa
you and your sister are separate persons, and there is NO reason to stick together for uni. – And MANY good reasons not to.
Leaving your sister is a GOOD thing for you.
Getting into Stanford is a HUGE opportunity! Please go and live your best life. There will always be people who want to hold you back to make themselves feel better, even family. Especially family. Your mom and sister are used to your sister being the golden child based on her looks. Now they are afraid that she will be overshadowed by a successful Standford grad who cant be outshined by just another pretty face. They should both be really happy for you for accomplishing your dreams. They are the selfish ones. You will meet wonderful new friends in college who will become like family to you and you will still have your dad at home. I’m sure he will be proud enough for 2 parents to have such a smart child. Congratulations! Enjoy Stanford! Also, you dont NEED a car in college, but if want another, get an internship while in college and save it. You will appreciate it more anyway
What in the biggest of actual fucks is your mother smoking?!
What parent threatens to disown their child for getting into an elite school?
NTA. Mummy’s just pissed because you’re going to show up her golden child. Ignore her and anyone that tries to stop you. Go be awesome my friend!
How is anyone believing OP possibly got into Stanford with these writing skills, or lack thereof? YTA for making this up.
Lmao! I was thinking this same thing! Who calls is Stanford college?! Maybe it’s really Stamford.
Also “uni”.
and there is no mention of how the tuition and fees and room and board at Stanford will be paid. There’s also no reference to anything in OPs life supporting the admission (perfect test scores, athletics, extracurricular, etc). I don’t buy the admission either.