My birthday is in a few months, and I’m inviting my main friend group of four people. There’s one other friend of mine I‘d like to invite, but none of my friends care for them because they’ve been pretty shitty to me in the past.
Only one of my friends is supportive of my wishes, and everyone else is fighting me on it. I even wanted to compromise and only have them for the supper, not the entire party. But they’re still saying no. WIBTA if I invited them anyways?
your party, your guest list. let them be mad, they’ll get over it eventually.
Is it her party? Usually somebody else hosts a party celebrating you. But a decent host would care who you wanted to attend.
Ultimately it’s your party. You’re entitled to invite who you want. Your friends don’t get to dictate your guest list.
However, your friends aren’t obligated to attend your party, and they may decide not to show up if they don’t want to be around your other friend.
Also, consider if inviting the additional friend would cause drama at the party. If so, ask yourself if it’s worth the drama.
The better solution here is to do lunch with the one friend, and then have a party with your other friends.
Knowing Reddit, people will tell you you get to do whatever you want. True. WNBTA if you go ahead. But it will likely ruin your party, so don’t.
No I ultimately believe that it should be up to you who you invite and who you do not invite since it’s YOUR birthday party. If they do not like it they do not have to show up
It’s a small intimate group with one outsider than no one gels with. It would just be be awkward. Have your party then do something seperate with the shit one
Info: are you saying the friend that your other friends don’t like has been mean to you in the past? How has this person been shitty to you? What’s changed?
From what little information I have, I understand your friends’ desire to protect you. I can’t say they’re assholes for that. However, this is your party, and you can invite who you want.
NAH
NTA.. it is your birthday, but why would you want to stay friends with someone who was mean to you?
it’s your party your choice, but maybe the friends that haven’t “been pretty shitty” to you are tired of you keeping such a person around and would rather not entertain the behavior. ultimately, up to you but maybe consider those who actually treat you like a human want what’s best for you.
YTA to yourself for continuing a friendship with someone who continues to treat you badly.
Yeah I think this is the right answer after seeing OPs comments here. The friends know this is a negative relationship and want to protect OP. But OP still has the feelings for the bad guy
It’s your party. BUT …
An anecdote from the past. My daughter had a good friend from the private school she attended through 5th Grade. When we moved, she made a good friend at her new public school. The girls were from wildly different socio-economic backgrounds, but she insisted on taking both of them to an amusement park for her birthday. To say the day went badly is an understatement.
You should look at the dynamic of the entire group. Your duty as a hostess is to ensure that all of your guests have an enjoyable experience If one person is going to make the rest of the group uncomfortable, you should really re-think inviting them. You can always celebrate separately at a different time.
INFO: what precisely happened?