I (18) made a christmas wishlist this year for my family and boyfriend so that they could have some ideas for what to get me instead of buying me random stuff that i might not want or like. I made the list on an app called giftly in order to organize everything nicely and make it easy to find things online. I thought it would be helpful if i assigned people gifts on the app just so people don’t get me the same gift. I wasn’t excepting everything on the list, although the overall total of the list wasn’t even over $600 in total for 4 different people. My family has always gotten my brother and i gifts for christmas so i didn’t think this year would be any different. My mom called me and said that i was being entitled for making a list and expecting them to buy me all of the things on the list. They recently booked a cruise for the family after i sent the list out and think that i am being inconsiderate for asking for a bunch of things, even though i just sent out a list and didn’t really expect anything from anyone. I asked my mom a little later after she booked the cruise if we were still doing christmas and gifts this year and if not to let me know so that i can give her share of the gifts on the list to someone else who would be able to get them for me. Am i in the wrong for making a christmas list for my family and boyfriend and asking for specific things?
update: i apologized to my mom for any misunderstanding about the intentions of the list. my dad and boyfriend did ask for a list of why i wanted so figured my mom would want the list as well (as she usually asks what i want anyway). they were not meant as demands, rather suggestions and the whole name thing was to prevent any duplication. thanks for your feedback!
YTA, ok it’s smart to make a list of things you want for people to reference. It’s not cool to assign specific gifts to people unless they outright ask.
Letting your family/friends know specific things that you want? Not an issue.
Making a list and *assigning people specific gifts* to buy for you? YTA.
YTA lol this is laughably entitled
You don’t expect everything on the list but you need to reassign gifts if your mom doesn’t get them? Sounds like you expect everything on the list…
You say you “weren’t expecting people to get you anything” on the list, but then you told your mom that if she wasn’t going to get you anything then you needed to know so you could find someone else to get you presents instead. Sounds entitled and a little snotty to me. I don’t think you’re being honest about how this was presented to your family or what you’re real expectations are. Yta ig
YTA 🤣
You could have said I have a list if needed but you never assign. How entitled. We have an Amazon wishlist for our daughter, if people ask. Jeeze. So entitled
“I expect nothing yet I assign the gifts I am wanting to specific people.” Ugh. So gross. You’re not a child asking Santa for presents. YTA.
You must be in a different tax bracket than I am that thinking $600 between 4 people is a small ask. Assigning gifts to people is YTA behavior unfortunately. Make the list, maybe ask them to confer with each other, but don’t expect them to get everything or to stick to the list.
“…I asked my mom a little later after she booked the cruise if we were still doing christmas and gifts this year and if not to let me know so that i can give her share of the gifts on the list to someone else who would be able to get them for me…”
You are an entitled asshole. The audacity to assign gifts like it’s a person‘s job to buy you shit.
”…I wasn’t expecting everything on the list, although the overall total of the list wasn’t even over $600 in total for 4 different people…”
**“wasn’t even over $600”** do you even hear yourself?
With this stank attitude you wouldn’t get shit from me.
Thanks for typing this in because it saved me the trouble. Oh the entitlement
YTA. Making the list wasn’t the issue. Assigning specific gifts to specific people, which kind of does sound like you expect them to get you those items and only / all of those items, was the problem.
YTA. That’s…really not how gift lists are supposed to work. They’re to give people some idea of the sort of things you want in case they’re stumped on gift ideas for you. Even for occasions for which registries are commonplace (weddings and baby showers, NOT birthdays or Christmas!), it’s generally understood that to so much as hint that ordering from the list is mandatory is *appallingly* bad manners, and as for assigning specific gifts on the list to specific individuals… OMG.
YTA. Once you start assigning certain gifts to specific people, it’s no longer a list of sugestions and ideas. It def comes across as more demanding and entitled.
My parents ask for a list every year and I’m in my 30s. Key word: ask. I put some stuff down and if they get it for me, cool. If not, also cool.
Making a list when it wasn’t requested, and then assigning items to people, is pretty tacky.
>i can give her share of the gifts on the list to someone else who would be able to get them for me.
LOL this is INSANE. What? Absolutely flabbergasted. You are absolutely being entitled. You are absolutely expecting people to buy you things despite your earlier statement to the contrary. “Her share of the gifts” is just wild. “If you won’t buy these for me I will assign them to someone else \[who I expect to buy them for me\].”
You have created a list of demands.
YTA.