My situationship and I hadn’t seen each other in 5 days before this encounter (longer than our usual streak).
Today we were both at our local gym. He had just arrived and I had just finished. I saw he was conversing with someone when we made eye contact and waved from afar.
Later, he started his warm up and I had just finished showering and was on my way out. I had dinner plans straight after and had packed a change of clothes – shirt and skirt. I didn’t like the way I looked in the skirt, it made me felt uncomfortable and conscious, so I hurried to my car outside to change into a pair of jean I left behind. Once I was done, I messaged and rang him to ask if he could come out to see me before I leave. He immediately said NO and asked why I couldn’t say goodbye inside, insisting I was embarrassed of him or something (joking manner). I didn’t answer and deter the question as I didn’t think it was necessary to reason with him at that time.
I was slightly hurt because he didn’t come and greet me.
After dinner, I rang him while driving home. Somehow we sprang back to the earlier incident. I told him I was sadden he didn’t brother to see me off. He retaliate saying it was rude of me to not see him and say goodbye, then expect him to come to me (at least before knowing the reason). Additionally, the act was selfish when I could have easily see him inside. I explained to him my view: why can’t you see me without a reason? Why must I convince you to see me? Why can’t you do. That willingly? If you had already said no – why must I convince you any further? Why can’t you go out of your way and convenience for 2 secs to see me?
He rebutted with why couldn’t you still see me before you leave? And why couldn’t you tell me what was going on? You just walked past me like you didn’t want to be near or see me – entirely not true, if I didn’t want to see him I wouldn’t bother ringing him before I left for dinner!
So AITA?