So for some context my dad doesn’t live with me or my mom, but they aren’t divorced and are still together. The whole reason he doesn’t live with us is because he found a good job opportunity but the schools in that area aren’t really good, so they decided to do long distance.
Moving on to the main topic, my friends know about this and most of them don’t harass me or make fun of me for it. But one of them likes to claim that my dad apparently left me or abandoned me. At first I just ignored it and thought that he was just bitching about it. But it started to get consistent after a while. I still tried approaching towards it calmly just telling him that he’s working and that he didn’t leave me. One of my friends also noticed the behavior and tried to explain to him about it too.
But that still didn’t even work on him and at this point it was actually pissing me off that he has the audacity to insult my own family with claims that aren’t even true. At this point he knew what was actually true and untrue. It started to get worse after a while and he would say worse things like he’s probably cheating and has a better son with him.
I tried telling him how what he’s saying is wrong and pissing me of, but he just didn’t listen at all. One day when he was bitching about it to me again, I just snaped and told him how he can’t be talking about my family when in his family, his mom cheated with 2 guys and there are 4 kids with 3 dads and one mom. Then one of his friends told me I shouldn’t be talking about family in arguments, and I know that he also heard him bitching about my family, but doesn’t try to stop him from talking about mine and gets mad when I talk about his? Then that friend started also bitching about my family as well. I find it hypocritical that he told me I shouldn’t be talking about family and then immediately talks about my family.
But after what I said to him about his family, the harassing stopped and I could not have to have him pissing me of over untrue facts.
I want to know if I might be doing something wrong or if I maybe took it too far by talking about his family, and please tell me if I was the asshole of if he was the asshole.
NTA, you stood up for yourself and sounds like you’re also still young so no one would expect you to handle that situation “perfectly”.
You could have gave him fair warning like “hey you need to stop talking about my family because I know you don’t want me bringing up yours.” But that’s just being nitpicky.
Your other friend also sucks for being hypocritical.