This is a long one….
So recently, my mom has been picking me up from work because she literally works next door and we live in the same house. it is important to know that I work the night shift. in the beginning, she would just stay at her work until I got off, and we would go home. two nights ago, we were in the car driving back home, and she had my father on the phone. Everything was going okay until we got onto the topic of her work. She told me and my father that at work, she had been upselling the customers she didn’t like because she had been giving discounts to the people she did like. She said she did this based on her customers’ race, attitude, or if they properly paid the last time she serviced them. I was confused and asked why she would do that. She answered, saying it made her look good to her customers and made her feel better.
I couldn’t understand, I asked why she would lie. She told me all growing up that it was wrong to lie, so I just didn’t, and whenever I did, I couldn’t hold it in and always exposed myself. I hate lying. I don’t like it when others lie to me, so why would I lie to them?
She proceeded to give an example about how I had lied to a customer at work as well, and I proved that I did not. She got upset and started yelling at me, saying, "You would lie to make yourself look better! I know you’d lie. You lie! You lie!" I sighed because she wouldn’t let me speak and just kept repeating "You lie!" over me whenever I spoke. I was almost at the brink of tears and kept asking her if she actually saw me like that. She never gave a clear answer, instead she started to call me a cry baby and dramatic and saying "it’s not that hard to understand," making me feel stupid, and my father was agreeing with her.
When I’m upset, I shut down and don’t talk for a while (normally 6 to 10 hours) but I was just so upset now knowing that my mother has no problem with lying to others, including me. I haven’t talked to her since the car ride two days ago, I blocked her on the texting apps we use because she pretended like nothing had happened, and things have been getting tense in the house. My father brushes off everything I say, and my mother refuses to be in the same room with me.
I just want her to apologize for yelling and thinking so poorly of me, but maybe I’m going about it wrong? I blocked her because I wanted her to apologize to me to my face so I could see if she was sincere or not, but she won’t seem to budge. Should I unblock her? Should I just do what she wants and pretend like it never happened and let it eat at me. Seriously, I’ve been losing sleep over this. Our family isn’t ever in the same room nowadays.
What should I do?
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Yeah this is too vague and sounds like a teenager wrote it. I had a feeling
Sorry it’s vague, but I don’t want to give out any personal information like where I work or what I do for work. This is my first time posting, so it might read weird, but I really just want advice for how I should move forward with this.
info: how old are you? how old is your mom? you live with them, what would blocking over text achieve??
She is my stepmom, and we are relatively close in age. We hardly see each other because of work so most of our contact is over texting. I blocked her hoping that she’d realize this wasn’t just nothing to me. I hoped that by blocking her she would talk to me face to face, but she’s just ignoring me instead.
Being called a liar is not the worst fucking thing especially if it’s primarily in a professional context and upselling i wouldn’t necessarily categorise as lying. Your mom is building customer relations while simultaneously bringing in the money. So dude chill
I understand that now, but what really upset me was that she yelled at me calling me a liar. Unfortunately, this isn’t the first time she has accused me of being someone I am not. I spend countless hours reflecting and changing but I see no change in her. I want our mother child relationship to be happy but every time something like this happens, I just have to let it go and we pretend like nothing has happened. I just want her to take accountability for how she treated me for once.
That’s an incredibly misleading and overly dramatic title.
Yeah kinda I guess…. I guess It just feels like that to me. My family has already been kinda on the brink, I was just super stressed about if this was going to be the tipping point when I wrote this. Sorry for the misleading title.. . .