So in my college whatsapp group, we were asked about staying or leaving a random club, and those who wanted to leave said they want to leave, but I was unsure so after thinking for one day I messaged that "I also want to leave" then a random guy messaged "get lost" he did not messaged that to anyone else, he just did that to me and few other classmates gave 🤣🤣 emoji to his "get lost" message, then I replied with đź–•and no one gave 🤣🤣 to that đź–• emoji, clearly they were with that guy and against me, then that guy and few other classmates started to go against me and telling me that I was being inappropriate because even girls are in that group, and they said that I am the one who started the argument, is that true? Isn’t saying "get lost" to someone in a group a insult
YTA quit being a baby, what did you want someone to respond with? Just leave
Get lost
TIL girls can’t use the middle finger emoji (NTA)
Want me to prove the opposite? /j (/j means joking, in case you didn’t know)
NTA….. You didn’t start it, the other guy did by being unprovoked and aggressive. While your emoji gave them an excuse to tone police you, getting lost is a blatant insult that justifies a defensive reaction.
NTA. Is there any particular reason to care what these people think? My response to people complaining would be “I didn’t ask for your opinion.”
As for there being women in the group, I’d tell the guys “boy it’s lucky they have your big strong shoulder to cry on, then.”
You used the middle finger emoji, now back it up. Grow a pair and stand your ground.
Tell them to get lost.
I mean, I don’t get quite why you bothered.
But the “there are girls in the group” is weird. 95% of the times I’ve seen that emoji sent, it was sent by a woman.
I’m gonna go for a light ESH on this one. Was the other guy right to tell you to get lost? No, it seems like that sort of comment was uncalled for. However, you DID escalate the situation by giving him the finger. You would have been better off just ignoring him altogether.
At the end of the day, it’s probably not the biggest deal. But in these types of situations, it’s often best to just not say anything rather than react in ways that will provoke people.
And the people say that “there are even girls” in the group also need to realize that women are just people too. They’re not little fragile delicate people who can’t deal with seeing an emoji of you giving the finger.
NTA
they totally overreacted, like if they can dish it, they gotta be ready to take it too is just a reaction to that trash, so NTA for standing ur ground!
You’re in college, can you please end sentences and start new ones? Stop worrying what others say or do and move on.
NTA. Him saying “get lost” was rude and maybe some others thought it was a joke. Maybe they didn’t know if you were joking when you gave him the finger and thought you were insulted, so no laughs. You didn’t start any argument by saying you wanted to leave. It is considered offensive but you already know that, right?Â
NTA. You did not start the argument. That guy insulted you first and is now using fake concern for the girls in the group to play the victim.
I can see the arguments against but ultimately I think YTA.
The context strongly suggests it’s a joke. Also if it’s a group chat it’s reasonable to assume it’s not targeted at you but at everyone who said they’re leaving and it’s simply your message that prompted the joke.
Whether it was a joke or not, at you or not, the rest of the group chat is clearly taking it as a humor. So yeah, you did start an argument by responding with hostility. It’s basic read the room stuff. Even assuming you’re not able to do so, simply ignoring the message would have been an objectively better option as you say this was from a random person in relation to you a group you’re leaving so who cares if someone sent a petty message.