Ok, so what happened was, that I (25m) got a bit flu-ey sick type a few days ago. It was at it’s worst yesterday, like I felt like I was on drugs or something. Obviously this was terrible timing because my gf had a presentation that evening, and she was bustling around the house getting ready, and did not want a slightly delirious sick person in her way. I tried to stay on the couch out of her way, but every time I tried to get up to get like food or water, she’d tell me to stay in place and not get in her way yk? So I was on the couch with nothing to do and apparently at some point I texted my friend Elias. I don’t remember doing that, but I read through the texts and they were wild.
Elias came to collect me a couple of hours later. He’s a pretty loud/dramatic guy so i understand how this could have annoyed my girlfriend even more. I don’t know how he convinced me to go to his house, but he did, and I went.
I stayed there from like 2pm to this morning, cause Elias said I was a mess. But by morning i had 17 missed calls and 2 voicemails. She is really mad at me for abandoning her on her special day and embarassing her in front of Elias who she says hates her because of me. But i don’t think thats turue. They’ve hated each other forever.
Still I don know that her thing was important to her and my leaving must have been quite abrupt. PLus it also probably seemed like I was choosing Elias over her but also he was nice to me. So I don’t know if I’m the asshole. Am I?
Sounds like you’re not telling the whole story, here. There’s a whole lot of details missing…
NTA at face value. Sounds like you were too sick. And your sickness was annoying her?
He wasn’t too sick to run off with a friend.
Seems more like his friend came to collect him.
Let’s make sure the details are clear :
You were so sick you weren’t making sense and your friend came to get you.
Your girlfriend was busy doing stuff to prep for a presentation.
Your gf wasn’t making sure you had fluids or even noticing you were not making sense.
Your friend came to get you and took you home to make sure you were cared for while your gf was doing her presentation.
Now your gf is mad and feels embarrassed.
NTA. Your friend a good dude for taking care of you. Your gf was focused on other things and needed the help.
I don’t love that she didn’t notice how ill you were, and that she was yelling at you to stay out of the way when you were sick. But that’s a different conversation.
INFO: you were delirious enough you were sending texts you don’t remember, your friend said you were a mess, and yet the one thing you are sure of is that you did nothing wrong and your gf shouldn’t be mad?
Both of you take a day to recover from illness and presentation stress and then sit down and have a discussion with her about what actually happened. You are not a reliable narrator, by your own admittance.