I (21f) have a mild cold and was blowing my nose out when this event started. I heard a startled shout from where my father (57m) was standing, in front of a showcase (like a cupboard, I suppose; it’s about two feet tall). So, I asked, "What happened?" and he didn’t answer. Please bear in mind that I was sneezing a moment before, and the only thing I had in my hand was a soaked tissue paper. Apparently, he had placed the coconut hair oil bottle on the uneven surface, and it fell, so the oil was everywhere. He then turned to me and somehow managed to scold me for not bringing anything to scoop it up. I was shocked and told him that I was sneezing, and he proceeded to scold me that I already knew what had happened, and I should know better and bring something to help him with. I reminded him that I was sneezing and didn’t know what had happened until I got there. He then told me (in that condescending tone) that I’m no help and if he did it all by himself, it wouldn’t take much time and scoop the oil up it alone.
Am I the Asshole for not being able to help?
P.S.: he also said that the event was not his fault at all. If I were the one to spill the oil, I don’t think I would be given the same courtesy.
NTA. Oh, and fuck that guy…
NTA
NTA you shouldn’t be snapped at that quickly and harshly. sorry you’re dealing with that.
You are probably right, the same would not be extended to you if the tables were turned. He is just upset and is lashing out at you. Sorry, and you’re sick too. NTA.
No, of course you’re not, but your father certainly is. What’s his problem? Well whatever, but it’s not your problem, you’re NTA.
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We all have our unreasonable moments. That was certainly one of his. Probably born of a mixture of frustration and embarrassment. Neither of which were your fault. You’re surely due an apology.