I (19F) and best friend (17F) have been besties for around 3 years now, we even work together. One of our favorite artists is Pinkpantheress, who recently released tour dates. We wanted to buy tickets, but I wasn’t able to buy them as soon as presale came out (Dec. 10th) bc I had a bio final. (Im a college freshman shes a HS senior) I also had my spring semester schedule picked out with a 4-5:30 pm class same day, so I was hesitant on even going at all in fear I would be late or miss it.
I told her this and I called her afterwards to know what ticket she bought and she decided to get a vip one ($230) which was honestly out of my comfort zone for a ticket considering we already went to go see Pink in 2024. I waited until our next paycheck came in (Dec 31st) to buy a ticket (bc my parents monitor my bank acc and I wanted to save up for Christmas gifts) and saw the vip were all sold out, so yes I did wait too long I will admit even though her I would buy them eventually.
I bought a general ticket instead, and asked to get ready at her house the day of concert bc her house is closer to my uni than mine, and she refused saying “you think i’m ok with everything, now i have to go to the concert alone in vip” even though we didn’t decide to get vip originally.
I apologized deeply and offered to give her space since we have never fought before, after 4 days of no talking she texts me “I miss you, can we still talk”, of course I say yes but she still ignores me at work and doesn’t text or message me?? So AITA?
OK, first… LINE BREAKS!
Now, with that out of the way: NTA. You didn’t agree ahead of time to buy VIP tickets, just to buy tickets. She decided to buy VIP without talking to you first. You still TRIED to buy VIP, but they were sold out.
ESH you need to discuss your plan before buying tickets.
Why does OP suck if the friend buying tickets before talking to OP? I’m sure OP felt that the friend should have waited as well.
Had the friend waited until OP’s timeline, they would not have been able to purchase the desired tickets that sold out. Communication is a two-way street and everyone wasn’t on the same page and OP didn’t make a decision until after the point where all options were no longer on the table. Indecision and communication misses are why OP is an AH in addition to the friend for the obvious reasons.
OP said that the VIPs were out of the price range for themselves. But blaming OP for being alone when going to a concert when plans weren’t agreed on before buying the ticket isn’t right.
NTA and your friend owes you an apology. You are not at fault for 1. Making sure you would be able to go before purchasing or 2. Making sure you had the money to purchase it.
She is taking her regrets of buying a ticket without a plan and making it your fault. Don’t be a doormat to a friend, friends shouldn’t walk all over you. You begging her to come back just shows her that you will let her treat you however she wants without any consequences.
NTA – You were making adult decisions and you made good choices. School and money need to come before concert tickets.
It isn’t your fault that she isn’t mature enough to understand that. The difference in your ages will definitely highlight some gaps in maturity on her part as you get more into the adult world and she is just getting her feet wet.
Let her have her fit and wait her out while being polite at work. Don’t beg for forgiveness because you haven’t done anything wrong. She’ll either get over it or she won’t and that is how it sometimes works out with friends.
NTA. You didn’t agree to VIP together, and you were upfront about money and timing. Someone choosing a more expensive option doesn’t obligate you to match it. Real friends respect financial limits instead of punishing you for them.
NTA But she sure is. People have lives, schedules, financial commitments … she needs to grow up a bit.