I am posting because I genuinely cannot decide if I am the asshole here.
**EDIT: I realize I should include my schedule to show why I’m upset about this.**
I have a difficult major. I also commute. Right now I’m part time but typically I’m gone morning to night. Literally 7am-10pm on long days or I’m back by dinner other times. In the fall I will be gone 7am-11pm then short days will be 6-11pm. This is why scheduling matters so much to me otherwise I wouldn’t give a crap. I also make time for doing work on the side and the gym.
My parents are at home 24/7.
I am an adult that lives at home with my parents. I attend college and do odd jobs on the side for money. I commute 45 min to 1.5 hrs each way depending on traffic. My major has a heavy workload.
one of my chores is to clean their dogs shit from the backyard 2x per week. I’ve been doing it once instead because I don’t enjoy driving so long to get sweaty in the sun, shower, then finally maybe get to homework at 7 or 8 pm.
My dad is irritated and insists I should do this 2x per to make it easier and so he can cut the grass whenever he would like to take a break (works from home.) he says I’m disrespectful for not doing as I’m instructed, but he wants me to do it on demand in the middle of the day when it’s 80-90 + degrees in the sun. I think it’s much easier to do it after the gym or on the weekend when I’ve already set aside time to do chores and shower. I like to clump “gross” chores together on one day to make it easier.
I understand wanting to cut the grass on your lunch break, but I think he can do it on Sundays so it aligns with my schedule that I’ve had for many years and never changed.
This is such a nothing argument I wish I wasn’t having, but if I’m being “lazy” you can tell me. I’m trying to relay things without being too one sided. This is a frustrating situation that is actually a big stress on our relationship for some reason. Maybe you’ll have advice idk. 🤷♀️
AITA for not doing chores according to the schedule assigned to me??
YTA…if you chore is to do poop duty twice, do it twice. You have a good deal, so don’t mess it up. Give them what they want and enjoy your free accommodations.
I’m guessing this is a chores in lieu of rent situation?
YTA. Theres so many ways to solve this riddle its a wonder you arrived at
> aligns with my schedule
Which perhaps is the only wrong one.
Unless I’m missing something where this more than a 10 min task that could be avoided if you just went out in morning with your dog and grabbed it rather than letting it all cook in your backyard for 6-4 days.
YTA. You are literally an adult still living with your parents, the absolute least you can do is the chores you agreed to. If that doesn’t work for you, move out.
YTA. As someone who does household chores during the week so I can relax on the weekend. Just clean the poop.
Assuming no rent and you do chores. Your an adult, do the chores they want, it’s still a sweet deal. YTA
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Its their house. Its your chore. Its their schedule. Do the chore. You don’t have to do it midday but you do need to actually do it on a better schedule.
YTA. Why? You’re not a kid any longer and you have a sweet fucking deal which means you, my friend, aren’t accruing student loans. You know what that means?
That for the low low price of picking up some dog shit a couple times a week, you are going to get to start your post-college life without the financial stress of repaying student loans.
You can start saving for things like a house or a car or whatever dreams you have IMMEDIATELY with your first job because your parents are giving you this sweet deal.
And all they ask is that you pick up some dog shit twice a week.
Do you really need strangers on the internet to tell you you’re an asshole? Get your ass up and pick up the damn yard, then apologize for being an ungrateful shit.
>but I think he can do it on Sundays so it aligns with my schedule
YTA
It’s his (and your mom’s?) home that you are living in. Why should he give you what appears to be free living space *and* be expected to conform to your schedule. You certainly think it’s unfair to comformto his schedule.
There are many other solutions including getting up earlier or using a flashlight at night.
You are the asshole. Your schedule is not more important than their schedule. Your comfort is not more important than their comfort. They are asking very very very little of you. As an adult, you need to accept responsibility and that also means that sometimes shit needs to get cleaned up whether you want to do it or not. Just do it and be appreciative. Ffs cut the grass, too!
YTA: The “on demand” would not be an issue if you were keeping to the previously agreed upon 2x per week.
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How long does it take to pick up dog poop. Seriously dude, grow up
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Why does the poop need to be picked up in the afternoon heat? Go out every morning and pick it up. It should take 5-10 minutes, tops. Then take your shower and get on with your day. If you don’t want to do this small chore, then you need to move along and get your own place.
YTA you’re chore is to clean it up twice a week. You’re not bothered to do that because – I have to commute.
You could always pay rent and live closer to college then you wouldn’t need to commute or do the chores. But you choose to live in your parents house.
A few chores isn’t much to ask.
Not only are you living rent free but they are giving you financial support. You’re being a huge asshole
YTA. Here’s a paraphrase:
“I live rent-free with my parents. A condition of my rent-free accommodation is to clean dog poop out of the yard 2x per week. But a) I don’t want to. And b) my dad said he wants me to, but I think he shouldn’t want me to.”
In case it’s not clear, the answers to your arguments are a) tough shit, and b) irrelevant