Pretty short story:
I (25F) have a streaming subscription so I can watch tv shows I like.
My brother (22M) wants to watch a certain tv show and asked for my login. He’s already using my spotify account because currently he’s not making a lot of money.
I wanted to give him my login until he mentioned that his girlfriend (27F) would use my account too.
I don’t have a problem with him using my account (again, I make more money than him) but I really don’t want to subsizide his girlfriend. She’s nice but she works full-time too so I think it would be reasonable to expect her to pay for her own account.
Now he’s pissed because "I force him to pay for his own account".
AITA for not giving my brother my password just because I don’t want his girlfriend to use my account?
NTA it’s your password
NTA, she can pay for her own and give him the password
NTA. His girlfriend can open an account and give him access. He can pay her half.
>I wanted to give him my login until he mentioned that his girlfriend (27F) would use my account too.
NTA. You are not required to subsidize your brother *and his gf*. Ever.
His entitlement is impressive though, lol.
NTA. It’s your streaming service so if he is accessing, and his gf, on whatever devices they have, that can chew up your available logins/whatever.
All these things are sticky situations…only you know how much you’re willing to give.
you can also say just that ‘fine, gf can access for a while but at any point I can remove you both if there is someone else I want to share pw with’
NTA. He is not entitled to the fruits of your labor.
Take away Spotify too. You have the right to say no. Access to your account is access to your personal information and credit card information. No thank you.
NTA…You are not responsible for your brother. He and his partner can work out their own finances and sign up for their own accounts.
Sounds like his girlfriend can buy a subscription and share the password with him.
NTA, depending on the service you may end up getting kicked off if you can only support 2 locations/screens.
You already know that you are NTA. Why does it matter?
NTA. If your brother can’t afford it, his GF sure can
Besides, whenever you give your password it’s like the people you gave them feels a compelled impulse to share it with their friends. And you end up not being able to log inn, because multiple devices are logged in at the same time
So avoid yourself getting into a BS situation
No, the streaming services force him and his girlfriend to pay for their own accounts.
NTA
If he continues to complain, change your Spotify account until he realizes you already do him favors and apologizes for his entitlement.
NTA – Once you give out your password, you have no idea who else will ultimately have access. Until you try to log on and can’t, because too many other people are already logged on.
Your brother and his girlfriend can get an account together, and share the cost. Unless he’s trying to give something to his girlfriend to impress her, except he’s giving her something that you own.
As adults, it’s not your job to take care of your younger brother because you make more money. How long will this go on? Will you be paying for him when you’re 30, when you’re 40? That isn’t you taking care of him, that’s him using you.
Why is he even on your Spotify account? If he can afford to go on dates, he can afford to pay for a Spotify account.
NTA