I (19M) had planned on relaxing for the night with a movie at home. My sister (23F) had gotten a ticket for a movie at the theatre at the same time my mom and younger had to go to an event.
My sister drives my mom’s car whenever she needs to go out. I own my own car.
When my family realized the schedule conflict it was about 10 minutes before both my sister and mom had to leave. So I was then asked to drive my mom. It was snowy outside, freezing, my car had been sitting there a while, I was already comfortable and set for the night, so I told them I wouldn’t drive anyone. Unfortunately my car is a Manual and neither of them know how to drive it so I couldn’t offer up my car to either of them. My sister took my mom’s car and left to the theatre after asking me repeatedly to drive them. Finally I caved in and went to turn on my car, but before I did I got a call from my sister, she was crying and cursed me out and said she was coming home so my mom could take the car. Once she got home I was again yelled at and my mom took the car and left.
I just didn’t want to go out on such short notice because it was so cold outside and I was already set for the night. But now a day later and my sister is telling my other siblings that she meant every word she said and she hates me, despite us being very close.
I think they should have just talked about who gets the van prior idk. Should I have just driven them to keep everyone happy or am I justified in wanting to stay home.
Edit: I read all the comments, and I realized I am the asshole.
I understand some of the comments that said poor planning, but I feel I left out some context which does worse for my case. My moms car is my sisters basically, my mom doesn’t drive like almost at all, she told my sister she can use it basically all the time “except for when i need it” type of thing, however like I said she hardly uses it, so I guess this was hard to avoid. it’s not like this is a regular occurrence.
I should have just got off my ass and driven my mom.
Thank you guys, I’ll try to be better for my family. I’ll apologize to my sister.
Textbook case of someone else’s poor planning not being your emergency. NTA, hope they learned to plan better next time.
YTA. Technically you don’t *have* to help them, but it’s a fairly normal thing to do for people you, presumably, love.
It’s also normal to not berate and tell someone you love you hate them when YOU fail to plan for something and then get mad when THEY don’t take time out of their day and relaxation to make up for YOUR failure…just saying
NTA. Your sister should get her own car problem solved.
Unless your sister has a habit of doing this kind of stuff, I’d be disappointed in you if I were your mom. I’d hope my kids got along with each other better than that. You’re right, they should have talked about it, but if this is a one-off kind of thing, I think you should help family when you are able.
YTA. You won’t see why now, but soon you’ll think back on this day.
This is the kind of thing people (me) regret much later in life. YTA
YTA. It was a minor inconvenience for you to be helpful to your family. That’s what family is about: helping each other.
Of course you don’t *have* to help her. But it makes you an asshole that you could have and didn’t. She wasn’t asking you to drive 4 hours. She was asking you to help her out with a last minute schedule error. You should apologize to her.
INFO
Why couldn’t one drop the other off in one car?
YTA. It was snowy and cold and you refused to drive your mom. Not cool.
I’m feeling a little iffy if this is a legit post. But I’m going with YTA, unless you never, ever expect a favor.
YTA. Which you will figure out for yourself when you need a favor from one of them and they remind you that you didn’t help them when they needed it. Karma is a beeyotch.
I have a feeling someone this selfish isn’t even doing their own laundry. Perhaps mom can come up with some rent terms for OP.
Since you haven’t mentioned your dad at all, I’m assuming your mom is taking care of all of you. Mistakes happen. You could have helped her out. YTA.