She is also diagnosed with migraines I just recently got diagnosed she asked for one of my pills I told her I wasn’t comfortable doing that because they’re prescribed to me and she is on other medications so she doesn’t know if that’s safe I told her no multiple times then she went off on me and called me stupid and retarded and said if I didn’t give her one of my pills she wouldn’t take me to the doctor anymore (I’m chronically ill like I can’t leave the house much and I struggle to do normal day to day life) I feel like I’m not the problem here she needs to learn how to regulate her emotions
Sorry for any spelling mistakes and the lack of punctuation I’m dyslexic and in a medical flare up so apologies and thanks for reading 💕
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And to add further context my mom has been on migraine medicine for almost a year I just this month not even a week ago started meds because do to my chronic illness POTS neurologist in my area were refusing to see me until my current neurologist thank god knows about my illness so she was comfortable treating me
And we’re not on the same meds
My mom is also on other medications outside of just migraine meds like for ADHD and I don’t know what else because it’s not really my business unless she wants me to know
My med she wanted to try is for when I’m having a really bad episode then I take it because my migraines are a constant lingering thing but get worse do to certain triggers like lights I have to wear sunglasses constantly especially in public if it’s a really bad day I lay in my room in complete darkness
NTA, her behaviour sounds downright abusive.
Her behaviour also sounds like an addict looking for a fix
NTA. Prescription medication is prescribed to a specific person for a reason. Different meds can interact badly, and sharing prescriptions can actually be dangerous. You were being responsible, not selfish
NTA. The most common class of migraine abortive meds, the triptans, have fairly serious contraindications. I’m betting that’s probably what you have. There’s a reason they’re generally prescription only and not over the counter\* – they have enough risk that your doctor should be deciding if they’re safe for you.
\*Yes, I’m aware that low dose triptans are available with a prior diagnosis and a pharmacist consult rather than a prescription in some countries; we’re still talking about consulting a professional regarding safety, which means that consult needs to be done for OP’s mom, with her medications and medical conditions, rather than for OP, before she takes the medication.
NTA
I’m really sorry she talked to you like that. You are absolutely right that she shouldn’t take your meds as they are prescribed using all kinds of info such as symptoms, other conditions, interactions with other meds etc. Additionally, talking to you like that and threatening you is unacceptable. Can you discuss with your doctors options about being more independent?
NTA – she should be asking her own doctor about treatments. The medical interactions would be one thing, but another thing to consider is the fact that your prescription has a certain number of pills and a certain number of refills. The pharmacy won’t refill it if it runs out too early, and then \*you\* don’t have your medication. Depending on the medication, you might get flagged for ‘pill-seeking behavior’.
Contact your doctor and express your concerns, especially about her threat not to bring you to your appointments. There might be an alternative available.
NTA, next time you see your doctor tell them that she told you if you don’t give her your prescribed medication she won’t take you to the doctors anymore and you’d struggle to get there alone etc.
Chances are they will make a report to safeguarding, adult or child depending on your age. This is of course a nuclear option.
NTA. I don’t know what prescribtion medicine you have, but the one I have can not be combined with certain other medications without severe risks. Going into a coma and not waking up kind of risks.
NTA. Migraine medication is hardcore and it is dangerous to share.
NTA, she needs to speak to her doc about either changing her meds or adjusting them. The fact that she’s on different medications is a problem and you are correct to worry about mixing meds with unknown side effects.
You are also correct that it’s not ok because they weren’t prescribed to her. It’s actually illegal for her to take them if they are a scheduled substance.
Stand your ground and tell her to go see her doctor tomorrow if what she’s on doesn’t seem to work for her.
NTA. Depending on what preventive meds your mom is on, medication combinations matter.
I have chronic migraines and I can’t take ANYTHING without checking a million interactions first.
She needs to speak with her own physician if her meds are not working. She can also speak with the pharmacist and have them suggest something that might work better for her. As an adult, she is very aware that she is not supposed to someone else’s medication …
NTA. You did the right thing by being concerned about possible interactions, in fact it is illegal to share prescription meds. Your mom crossed a line by name calling, shaming, and threatening you with withholding medical attention. She was way out of line.
As for the legality of withholding medical care: are you legally a dependent of your mother? Parents are not legally obligated to provide medical care to an 18+ child unless they have a legal guardian arrangement. If you are disabled and dependent, and your caregiver is withholding medical care, this could be considered caregiver neglect (if mother is primary caregiver), and also abuse of a vulnerable adult depending on the state you live in. Your mother’s name calling could be considered emotional abuse and neglect depending on your dependent status.
If you’re chronically ill and cannot manage transportation on your own, you should be able to reach out to social workers or advocates with your doctor’s office for assistance in receiving medical transportation and other disability support services.
NTA. Fyi there are combinations of vitamins plus CO-Q10 that can help reduce migraine symptoms if taken regularly. Her neurologist can provide the details but that’s how we heard about it. An ice pack on her head can help also.