Hello, this is a throwaway account, it’s just that I need to know if i’m right in this situation. Recently I graduated (yay) as a professional and I planned a dinner to celebrate as I thought my father wasn’t able to attend (he surprised me!! I was so happy) my mom had to take care of a delicate situation and my closest family members (uncle and aunt) were in another country. I was very disappointed because my family couldn’t be there that I planned to meet my closest friends to celebrate. For context, this person used to be a really great friend of mine, but recently I’ve been feeling so much distance between us, suddenly they stopped inviting me to their birthdays and essentially they just gave up on me, stopped texting or maybe asking how I was doing? I am a very busy person and sometimes I get caught up on things but I really try to be present, so I invited other friends from the group privately and individually but somehow they got to know and made it a fuss????? I directly told them to not take it personal because it was a decision made not to attack them but just a reaction of the action (they completely forgetting I existed) not out of spite but just a natural reaction when a friend distances. I really didn’t mean to hurt them, I just did what I think was correct, but it made me really mad that they involved my other friends for the group in an attempt to win the argument? They got caught in the middle and now things are uncomfortable. That’s exactly what I didn’t want and it ended up happening, so I got mad because it is very inmature, like just accept it and move on!!! They had the audacity to get mad after not sharing more than 10 words with me in the whole year. And it makes me really sad because as I said, we used to be very close to each other 🙁 Am I The Asshole?
NTA!! At all! If your friend wanted to go then maybe they should’ve acknowledged your existence once or twice??
Sometimes people just lose touch and move on. It’s part of life.
NTA