So me (18f) and my sister (19f) have a rough relationship, we been on our own for a while since our grandma passed. We tend to butt heads but quickly make up, but lately she’s been a whole jerk, yelling and getting mad at the simplest things. We were talking about her upcoming birthday, and she TOLD me, not even asked, that i was to leave the house for two whole days for her birthday. when i told her that i had nowhere to go all she really said was to figure something out.
I feel like it was unfair to ask for me to leave considering that i paid the bills for like three whole months, and plus she party’s all time when I’m here so why is it a big deal if i stay home this time too? I just think it’s stupid to kick me out of my home just because she wants to get drunk. am i the asshole?
You can’t be serious
NTA. You pay to live there she doesn’t get to decide when you can or cannot be there regardless what day of the year it is.
NTA, it’s your home. I would say be prepared to stay in your room or something based on what you described of her behavior.
NTA
She has no legal or even moral authority here.
Ignore her request.
NTA, she can’t kick you out of the house like that.
I’d say if housemate A made themselves scarce for AN EVENING while housemate B had a home date, that would be A doing a favour to B and within the realms of normal. Two days for a party is ridiculous and she’s been rude about it.
NTA. Tell her that if she pays for a hotel room and meals, you’ll leave. Otherwise, you live there too and have just as much right to be there as she does. Is she of legal age to drink where you are?
If you’re paying the bills you need to kick her out. NTA
NTA
She wants you to pay stay somewhere other than your own home instead of her just leaving you alone and doing her own thing (or paying to party in an AirBNB or something). It’s a completely unreasonable request.
NTA your sister seems to be either going through something or shes a bad person. Imagine kicking your sibling onto the street so you can have your birthday party…. Yikes..
yeah, on one hand i think it’s the stress of losing our grandma because they were close but on the other she aways been like this. so maybe a mix of both
Sounds like she plans on having company. Tell her you’ll be just fine at home if she wants to book a room somewhere for her birthday.
What everyone else said plus
Curious what sis has planned that you need to be gone.
She wants you out, it for her to figure n out, nkt you. Have her book you a nice hotel room fkr a couple of days and relax away from her baloney.
for more info my name isnt on the house, so i can’t really kick her out but thankfully my god parents plan to move to a bigger house and says i can go stay with them when they do! so moving really soon hopefully! but yeah really stupid situation