So my brother wanted to play some games with me and I wanted a new game so I decided to finally try SA2 and later we played the battle mode and I ending up winning more times than I should’ve , and when it was time to go to sleep and I had just won he started crying and I felt so bad because I hate seeing him cry but I also didn’t wanna lose as shadow so am I the assshole
It’s a rite of passage when playing with a younger sibling…
NTA for beating your sibling in a video game
NTA but there’s a delicate balance of letting them win and teaching them they can’t always win. Be a tad more gentle next time, at least for the last game, and find games with team mode so you’re not competing against each other.
This. Losing is important in learning emotional regulation. Were working on that with our 5 year old neice when we play games. Competitive drive is great, but you have to learn how to lose or it sucks the fun out of it.
Its also important to let them win every now and again, as theyre still learning, so they want to get better and things we enjoy continue to get passed down.
NTA i let my little brother win once in a game now he beats me in every single thing we play😔 but on a serious note you aren’t the asshole its normal to learn that you cant always win i know you felt bad seeing him cry i feel bad when i see my little siblings cry too but kids just don’t know how to regulate their emotions yet and crying is healthy and normal for his age over something like that im sure that eventually he wont get as upset, but if you want and think it might help maybe explain to him that sometimes we don’t win but thats ok because playing the game is still fun even if you don’t win and you can always try to win next time
You already know you’re the asshole based on how you feel right now.
NTA, I never let my kids win, they have to earn it, but I always compliment them on their successes.
NAH. You’re allowed to play the game and win for yourself and your brother is allowed to feel upset for losing
As his older brother, it’s your duty and right to humiliate him at video games. If you let him win, he’ll think he’s better than you and he’ll become rebellious. Not only did you do the right thing, now you have to beat him at other games too.
YTA. You said it yourself, you won more than you should have. He is 5yo. You’ve proved nothing to yourself by beating him enough times to make him cry other than you weren’t being a great older sibling. He just wanted to spend time with you and bond. I would invite him to play again and show him how he can win more, encourage him and let him win the first game and maybe every 2-3 after. Always end on him winning, or games being incredibly close, if you want him to be happy about playing with you more.
NTA
Tell him to Get Good
Never let them win. Make them earn it. The day he actually beats you will be one of the best days of his life.
NTA. You didn’t do anything wrong, it’s perfectly normal to want to win. But your little brother wanted to play a game with you because he likes to spend time with you. So sometimes that means kicking his butt in SA2. And sometimes that means teaching him how to play the game better. Also, while you absolutely don’t have to, letting him win once in a while might be nice for him. Just make sure that head of his doesn’t get too big with his victories. After all, there’ll always be plenty to learn from the expert (you, of course).
NTA I never let my little sister win. Ever. She’s very good at games now. Arguably, better than me, because she plays more. If I hadn’t dominated her for our entire existence, she wouldn’t be so good at them now.