My sister has already wrecked two cars, both basically her fault, and now she’s asking to borrow mine “just for a few days.” I told her I can’t risk it because I really can’t afford to replace my car, and she’s acting like I’m being dramatic and punishing her for stuff that happened years ago. AITA?
NTA. Her irresponsibility is not your burden. Public transport/ride sharing is a thing.
No, NTA. But I don’t think I’d cope with not having a car for any longer than a day. Apart from purchasing a house, a car is the next biggest purchase.
NTA but you could give her a suggestion like hiring a car from Hertz.
NTA. I have a sibling with a similar track record for vehicles. You are completely in the right to not want to risk your vehicle. She can rent a car from a cat rental.
Uber, rental, or public transport.
Surely she had insurance?
Did she get money to fix them or a payout?
How long would she need to borrow your car? Until hers is fixed? Give us some more info.
In many states the registered owner can also be sued if there’s an accident….dont get into that mess.
Most people go a lifetime without smashing their car. She’s smashed two. Given her track record NTA.
NTA. You need to stand firm. Don’t lend your car to anyone and especially not someone it won’t be safe with.
Of course she is trying to manipulate you. That’s what entitled people do. Doesn’t mean you have to listen.
Whatever she says, repeat calmly, “you are not a safe driver and I can’t afford to let you wreck my car. I depend on it.” She replies, you say it again or ignore the next text or leave the room.
Nta. I mean crashing one, ok it can happen. Crashing TWO??? what if she gets awfully hurt ?? In your car?? NAH .
Like giving a loaded gun to a monkey
Abso-fucking-lutely NTA.
When she can prove she doesn’t suck as a driver, then she can come back and ask..and maaaaybe you will say yes then.
It is not like her car is in the shop for to change the carburetor… she effing wrecked not one but two cars.
If we go buy the reasoning of your past predicting your future. Her “closest” past predicts the death of your car.
And furthermore… again looking to her past and thinking she may be quite unreliable…. if she damages your car – is she gonna pay for it? And what if she damages someone else’s car… and/or injure people… is she insured for that? Does your policy cover other drivers? And if your policy is involved, are you prepared for your score to take a hit? Some insurance payments get bigger after stuff like this.
So a hard no to sis. It is not about punishing her – although she brought this on herself – but you protecting yourself, your car and your financial situation.
I’d swear we see this story at least once a month, every month.
NTA.
Get her some driving lessons instead.
NTA
Not wanting to lend your car to someone likely to crash it doesn’t make you an asshole.
Not wanting to lend your car to a competent driver wouldn’t make you an asshole either. It is your car.
Unless your sister has done so much more for you than you have for her over the years, not wanting to give her your car is perfectly reasonable and not at all selfish.
If you want to be nice about it just blame insurance for not allowing it.
If anybody other than her says that you are the asshole for not lending out your car, have them lend their car.