I (16F) skipped junior year (based on credits), so I’m a senior and graduating at 16. I have a summer birthday, so I don’t turn 17 until after graduation. My main friend group was already all seniors because of extracurriculars and such. It wasn’t an issue before, but now it seems like one friend in particular is annoyed by it? Whenever M, A, and I go out, M tells me to say I’m a junior, lie about my age, or say I started school early and not that I skipped a grade if anybody asks. When I asked why, she just claimed it makes me look dorky and her and A look stupid by comparison. I don’t try to bring it up, but when age/grade/school stuff comes out, I’m not going to lie (but saying you’re 16 and then saying you’re a senior always raises questions). I told her I wasn’t going to lie, but I would try to not mention age/grade unless asked. She got mad, and the others in the group are divided. Some are on my side, but a few are saying its not a big deal to lie if it makes M feel better. I don’t know, AITA?
You’re being reasonable, not everyone needs to broadcast your age/grade, but lying about it isn’t required. M’s reaction says more about her insecurities than about you. NTA.
M is terribly insecure and making your success into her failure. Tell her, “It doesn’t matter what I am; you’re good as you are.” Point out things about her that others admire.
Just ignore the M pleasers. Be your true authentic self. Don’t downplay who you are.
Find a new friend?
no fr. how insecure are you that you can’t handle your friend being…successful?
NTA. How insecure u gotta be to tell someone to lie about that? She needs to worry about her damn self
NTA. Maybe she and A are stupid? ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
totally, you shouldn’t have to lie about something you earned it’s not your job to make her feel better
NTA.
I’d brag about it all the time – that’s a super cool and somewhat rare achievement!
NTA, M is quite simply irritated, insecure and jealous you get to graduate a year earlier than her, that’s a HER problem, not yours.
Your friend wants you to shrink yourself to fit her insecurities. That’s not a good friend. That doesn’t mean she’s a monster, but she isn’t emotionally very mature, and she’s likely to hurt people close to her in other ways until she grows up. NTA.
Careful there making friends with both stupid and jealous people. These are the kind of people you need to learn to spot in real life and STAY AWAY from them. Do not give them a chance to make you feel small.
NTA- She’s just insecure and trying to control you. I don’t even understand how you skipping a grade would make her look dumb in comparison, she’s just like the vast majority of high school students. I wouldn’t belittle and lie about myself to cater to someone else’s jealousy. If you were walking around bragging about it and being annoying that’s another thing but that seems to not be the case here
That’s M’s problem. Sounds insecure 100%. Don’t ever let them make you feel bad
Never dull your shine for someone else. There will be people all your life wanting to put you down. nta