Long story short, was in a relationship with someone who had to leave for Europe to study there.
The relationship depended on me enrolling in a uni over there or eventually shifting there.
I didn’t want to and I humbly apologised and broke up, now I’ve been told that what I did was selfish
NTA. As long as you were honest and thoughtful in your response. They can still be mad about it tho.
NTA. Being selfish isn’t always a bad thing. If this was the best decision for you, it was right to break it off.
Info – who the hell is calling you selfish for this?
NTA
Never selfish for choosing what’s best for you when deciding where to live. Especially when you’re young and especially when kids aren’t involved.
No you are not the a hole if you uprooted your life for a man you’d regret it and you’d have no one to turn too if it went south
NTA. For the simple reason you didn’t want to. That’s good enough.
ESH, you knew how the relationship was built on and still dated said person
Without alot more info about why decisions where made is hard to be 100% but gonna go with NTA
NTA. It is extremely selfish of them to expect you to uproot your life for them. You do not owe that to someone you are dating.
NTA. You need to decide what is best for your life. Sure, it is selfish, but unless you are deeply in love and planning a life together (which doesn’t seem to be the case here), that is what you need to do.
NTA. Unless you are married, or about to be, is it absolutely not selfish to not want to uproot your whole life. Sounds like you handled things perfectly, and the other person’s feelings are hurt and they are lashing out.
NTA. You are not selfish for choosing to do the right thing for yourself. Your ex doesn’t own you, and you don’t owe your future to anyone except yourself.
NTA, moving when you don’t want to will only breed discontent and misery.