I (20F) am in college in a college class where the professor mostly lectures and doesn’t post detailed notes online. Because of that, I usually write down a lot during class so I have something to study later.
A few days before our test, a classmate (21F) messaged me asking if I could send her all of
My notes from the past few weeks since she didn’t take any notes prior to her vacation time.
I told her I could send a few pictures of the main pages, but I didn’t feel comfortable sending my entire notebook because it took me a long time to write everything out and organize it in a way that helps me study.
She replied that it would “really help her out” and said since we are in the same class it shouldn’t be a big deal. I still said no to sending the whole thing but I did send the most important stuff in photos.
After that she seemed annoyed and didn’t respond. Later I overheard her talking to someone saying some people in the class were selfish and didn’t want other people to succeed.
Now I am wondering if I should have sent everything since it wouldn’t have hurt me, but the same time I feel like the notes were something I worked hard on.
So AITA for not sharing my notes with a classmate before a test
Procrastination on her part is not an emergency on yours.
NTA, you don’t owe anyone your hard work. Especially if she’s only a casual acquaintance.
She isn’t even my acquaintance. She never talks to me unless she wants something or wants to rant about her boyfriend
The audacity. Don’t even spend another moment on her disapproval, she needs to learn responsibility for herself.
She likes to take other people notes and never give anyone who actually needs help her notes when she rarely takes them
How close are you with this classmate? I feel like i’d never ask someone I barely know for notes so NTA if you don’t know her. YTA if she’s your friend. NTA if she’s your friend but she does stuff like this a lot to the point where she’s kind of using you and not giving you anything in return
We are not close at all. The only time we talk is when she wants my stuff
Then NTA, people like that are annoying – especially at this level because as an adult you’re responsible for yourself
NTA after the additional context of this person’s history of being a leech. Congratulations on developing a solid study system! Perhaps there is a market?
NTA, just ignore her and her attitude.
Make her pay for them $$$
NTA.
You wrote, edited, compiled. and collated notes geared specifically toward your success. That’s a lot of work and added information to just give away – especially to an acquaintance who, by the sounds of it, only took the class seriously after she returned from her vacation . . . and maybe not even then, if she couldn’t be bothered to do the work to catch up on what she’d ‘missed’ (i.e, it sounds like she was there pre-vacation, but otherwise preoccupied.)
NTA Note taking is pivotal in lecture classes. If she’s not doing it herself that’s on her. Stop doing the work for her. She should drop the class if note taking is too difficult for her. I’d block her number since you probably don’t require group texts about tests. You’re all grownups now and she needs to figure it out on her own.