I (19f) have a best friend, we’ll call her A(20f). Me and A are both college students and used to hang out everyday, but we both rushed this spring and she ended up with a house and I didn’t. Obviously this upset me and I don’t have a lot of friends so this was upsetting for me but she said nothing would change. Recently she’s been telling me she’s busy and then I’ll check her location and she’s with her new sorority sisters. I feel bad this makes me jealous but I don’t have many other friends so it sucks. Today she did the same thing and asked me to me and then I got upset and started texting her how upset I felt about it. It boiled down to her saying she’s busy with work and me saying I feel like she’s fading me. This made her upset and she said she’s allowed to hang out with other people. I know this isn’t a huge deal but I feel like I’m losing my best friend so I just started apologizing and she responded like 20 minutes later it’s okay and I kept saying sorry and I don’t feel like she didn’t acknowledged my feeling and I do a lot for her and our larger group. I got my group of 6 fake ids and put it on my card and no one thanked instead they complained about me messing their hight up, and I found us our house next year and they just complained about the price instead of looking themselves. I really thought I had one good friend in A and I really try to make other friends but I feel like no one likes me and it’s so hard, and now I lost the one I had and there’s nothing I can do about it. AITA for getting upset at my friend for blowing me
NTA, and you need to make some other friends. and be prepared for half your friends for the house to not move in or not pay ther share.
NTA, your friends aren’t really your friends and like one user said be prepared I wouldn’t trust them if I were you.
NTA, it’s time to find some new friends.
If I had a friend that kept blowing me off? That’d be my best friend right there.
Yes your friend is allowed to hang with other people. Your friend is probably sick of dealing with such a clingy person. Join social, hobby or sporting groups to make other friends and understand that friends don’t need to devote themselves to you exclusively, in order to be friends.
Your friend just joined a sorority. Unless the Greek system has changed a great deal since my day, she is now a pledge and is going to be required to attend a whole bunch of initiation/sisterhood/bonding(/maybe-hazing-but-hopefully-not) events, as well as having to focus on socializing/fitting in with a whole new group of people. I had friends who joined fraternities and I basically didn’t see them for the rest of freshman year.
Now, your friend did also say that “nothing would change” between her and you, and that wasn’t true. But that seems more like wishful thinking than actual lying or maliciousness. I don’t think the friend is an AH here unless she was an AH for joining a sorority in the first place when she already had friends, and for me that’s not a valid claim.
I also don’t think you were an AH as long as you didn’t say mean or uncalled-for stuff in these text messages. It’s OK to be upset about this, and I’m sorry that you’re simultaneously having problems with other friends. But with regard to this particular friend, you’re going to have to accept that your relationship is changed because she’s got another commitment that prevents it, at least for now, from being how it was.
NAH