My brother and I both have dogs. My dog wears a muzzle in public because he has a bite record (rescue) but is very well trained and I bring him everywhere with me. My brother’s dog is very reactive (pulls at leash and barks at everything. this dog isn’t even potty trained) but is friendly and small (my dog is big) so it seems to get a pass from my family.
My mom and brother wanted to go to a few stores (marshall’s and petco, both pet friendly) and my brother said he’s bringing his dog. I said i’d bring mine too and they immediately said no because he’s "scary" and "embarrassing" because he has to wear a muzzle. I argued that he’s very well behaved and is never a problem when i bring him anywhere but they just don’t care.
This isn’t the first time this has happened so of course i’m mad because my dog isn’t doing anything wrong. I told them that i’m no longer watching my brothers dog while he’s at college classes (I do online school) or taking it on walks (I walk my dog atleast once a day, the other dog doesn’t get walked unless I bring it with me) or taking it with me when I go places by myself. So this basically means the dog will be in the crate a lot more, never go on walks, and only go in public 1-2 times a month when my brother has time.
Am I the asshole for this? I’m sick of my family treating my dog badly for no reason and then being fine with whatever the other dog does because it’s a small dog. Also my brother won’t watch my dog for me ever even though I watch his dog almost daily (one time I got home after being gone an hour and my dog was locked in my room)
edit: I also told my brother before he got the dog I wouldn’t watch it for him because he doesn’t have time for a dog, but he still got it. So really he’s lucky I watch the dog at all, but the way he started treating my dog after getting his own is what makes me mad
as a employee at one of those 2 stores, a muzzled dog is better than a yappy reactive dog. your dog is fine, i would def make a judgemental face at him/his dog LOL
ESH. Leave your bite record and reactive dogs at home while going on errands, you don’t need to bring your dogs unnecessarily into stores. Also while your brother’s not a very responsible pet owner and is taking advantage of your time, it’s also messed up to effectively punish the dog for a conflict between you and your brother. Instead of putting the animals in the middle you all should talk about whatever you’re actually upset about.
The reactive dog is fine in a muzzle.
How is OP an asshole for setting boundaries with a dog that’s not his pet. You can’t just put the blame on OP when it’s not his pet