I (16F) have experienced mental health issues since I was 11. Recently I have been to hospital twice because of it. I won’t go into specifics. But my sister (18F) has been saying she can’t trust me and that I lie to her because I don’t tell her everything I go through mentally. I don’t tell her everything because I find it awkward and difficult to talk about and because I don’t want her to worry. She also doesn’t really seem to understand mental health. She’s got a chronic illness which has limited her a lot so I thought she might understand mental health and how important it is. she doesn’t understand why I see a therapist, saying it’s “useless and they’re only there because they’re paid to be”. She also told 2 people everything she knew after I went to hospital without asking me first. Luckily I know those two people and they struggle with mental health as well so I’m not worried. My parents know everything and have been a massive support. My mother got upset when she told people without asking me but I don’t know if I should be telling her and it’s genuinely been making me feel bad. She only recently was told about the more serious mental stuff I go through and it’s just made her more mad at me for not telling her. Is it wrong of me to not tell her about that stuff? I need someone’s opinion on this
NTA She is making you not telling her about her instead of it being because your mental health is your business, especially since you are working to improve it. She isn’t entitled to your medical history, which covers mental health as well. Also, it sounds like her reactions to the stuff you tell her is actively discouraging you from telling her more. You aren’t a bad person to not tell her and she is being an asshole about it.
It’s hard to tell whether or not you’re the asshole when we don’t have your sisters side of the story.
NTA. She’s already proven that she can’t be trusted to keep your private medical information confidential; you just got lucky that the two people she told were people you were willing to have be aware of that information. She is not entitled to be aware of every thought that runs through your head, especially if/when some of those thoughts and ideas are upsetting or scary or hard to discuss.