I (19F) got out of a 2 year long term relationship over a week ago. And my roommates , let’s call them C and L (19F & 21M) and I have known each other for over a year and are close friends. Anyway the other night our shared friend let’s call him P (19M) came over to our place to hang. As a group of Uni kids do we start drinking. Long story short when P and I were talking in my room we shared a short drunk kiss. Talked about and realized it was dumb and probably shouldn’t have happened. The next day I noticed my roommates acting a bit strange but oh well, fast forward I have plans to hang at P place with my best friend A (19M). We are out and get a call from my roommate Cs boyfriend and he’s saying how my roommates know something happened and they are pissed. I’m going to make this short but P and I told them this morning what they wanted to hear and they are so angry I’m having a hard time understanding why it’s a big deal. One more thing my roommate L (21M) has had a thing for P for a long time and P will always stay at our place but we think L is upset because he has feelings. Also P is best friends with Cs boyfriend so just confusing all around and I feel like a big asshole. I know it’s coming from a place of concern and making sure I’m ok and being smart but they literally have been telling me to let lose and have my fun so idk what’s happening I need help.
ESH.
Are you living in a telenovela?
Feels like it bro
NTA. Unless the person you kissed is in an actual acknowledged monogamous relationship with someone they are free to kiss you or anyone else they want. You do not owe info on your personal life, romantic relationships, one night stands or anything else to your roommates. It is literally none of their business.
You can kiss whoever you want, it’s irrelevant if someone has a crush on them. NTA
Small YTA, I wouldn’t have kissed him if I knew my friend had a crush on him. but who knows
Like i mentioned in another comment he was telling us different and thought feelings were long gone but the guy who kissed me told me other wise, hard when most of the friend group is bisexual
They’re overreacting. It was a drunken kiss and don’t go further than that. Acting like they’re in middle school
It’s jealousy. And no, you don’t have to tell anyone that you kissed
NTA, and I don’t think their reactions are coming out of a place of concern, but because they expected you to follow some unstated “rule” about crushes that you definitely don’t have to follow.
NAH – Drunk college kids kissing and regretting it right away is perfectly normal behavior. Not disclosing to the roommate with a crush on the boy is actually kind of nice, but I can understand why the roommates would be salty about it since they found out anyway. It briefly looked (to them) like you were hiding a hookup with a guy one of them had a crush on.
If P is confirmed not interested in men, then L is the soft asshole here, causing a little drama without actually being harmed.
You’re right it’s not a big deal, but it’s fresh and juicy.
NTA
They’re your roomies. You don’t have to share every detail of your life with them and it’s weird that they expect you to do that.
NTA. Your private life is your private life. Your roommates do not have ownership of “P”. If they have a thing for him, they should make a move and see if he’s interested in a relationship with them. Clearly he isn’t and they aren’t.
Such soft E S H that is basically an NAH. Drunk kiss with the crush that he supposedly gave up already. You both agreed in not pushing it further, I understand you not going out to tell him, it would be kinda weird and probably as bad. I can understand L getting pissed, no matter how long ago was his crush, having them kiss with another one in what is his home too was rubbing salt on the wound, no matter how scarred it was. IDK why C was mad tho