To be fair, **I didn’t actually hear them when they asked where the friend was**, but they DID ask the question and i didn’t answer even though I knew where she was at the time.
It starts like this, we, a friendgroup of around 7 were split up at the start of day because friend D, (the one mentioned in the title) left on her own accord to find her other group of friends. She proceeds to hang with them for the rest of the day, not informing us abt her whereabouts and we practically didn’t see her the whole time.
Then, we went to the main hall to watch some festive performance, and I saw her *near the back end* waving at me. i waved back, solidifying the fact i noticed her. The remaining friendgroup including me sat at the front of the hall together, while she sat at the back with her other group of friends.
When school was ending, we had to change back to uniform (the whole friendgroup changed into traditional clothes in the morning) so we all just went to the bathroom together to change.
We didn’t invite friend D, because she was still chatting with her other group of friends when I saw her, and I assumed she just wanted to hang with them until school ended.
We changed, and I guess i was deaf or something, because in the bathroom someone asked where friend D was。
I didn’t answer and so no one went to go look for her.
We took abt 30 mins to change and walk back to the hall until we saw friend d come out.
She looked pretty hurt that we didn’t invite her to come change with us and she was pissed at me for not telling the others where she was.
I told her i thought she was hanging with her other group of friends, but she said they didn’t need to change, so we should’ve invited her or else she would be alone.
I do think it is my fault for not telling the others where she was, but i also think if she wanted to come, she wouldve spotted us leaving since she was in the backend and rejoin us, or else it would’ve been awkward to invite her when she was still with her other group of friends.
**So now I feel kind of guilty for leaving her out, although it was not my intention, but AITA?**
BONUS: Some of our friends from the friendgroup still went to change with her afterwards, so she wasn’t alone. She still got realllyy pissed with me afterwards and told everyone that IWTA for leaving her out.
My personal opinion: I just think if someone did this to me, it wouldnt be something to make such a big deal about. I would forgive them if they didn’t tell others abt my whereabouts since i would assume they thought i was hanging with my other group of friends, which imo is a reasonable assumption. I dont know, maybe im not seeing this in the right way or being way too insensitive, what do u think?