So my brother’s child’s first birthday is this Saturday. Me and my wife are currently getting divorced, but my brother and his wife invited my wife to the birthday party which is being held at my sister in laws house. My wife has made it clear that she does not want to have any sort of romantic relationship with me anymore and we are all but living in the same house but in different rooms.
When I called my sister in law to see if my wife was coming to the birthday party, she said that she didn’t know what terms me and my wife were on so she invited her anyways.
Me and my wife are not on great terms. We don’t talk that much, but when she gets drunk, she will come into my room and try to have sex with me. Albeit, the reason the marriage is dissolving it primarily my fault; but, my family has always taken the position that I come first.
I feel like my family is not putting me first. If anyone in my family was getting divorced, I wouldn’t invite their significant other to a family event without asking if it was okay first. I feel like I am losing both ways- my wife gets to enjoy all of my family events while also divorcing me.
My family has seen me at my absolute worst and rock bottom. And yet, they want to invite my soon to be ex wife to a family event that means so much to me. I feel like I should be able to go to my little brother’s child’s first birthday party untethered from worrying my soon to be ex wife is there.
My sister in law said that it’s a big house and that we could be sequestered from each other. I feel like that’s unfair; I should be able to enjoy the full party without distractions.
Edit: no I didn’t cheat, I told my SIL it was obviously her choice, yes we can act civilly, just wanted an opinion if I was being an asshole for having that thought it was somewhat inconsiderate. Me and my family are close, I wouldn’t do the same to them.