I’m here because i’m not sure if i’m the asshole. so as everyone in the US knows that we just got insane amounts of snow so me f 23 went to shovel with my boyfriend m 23. we live in townhouses so it’s one house kinda split in half. our neighbor that isn’t connected to us shared a walkway with us and since she’s older we always shovel her porch and sidewalk. we don’t do it for money ever just to put out there. she just lives alone and needs the help so we do it for her. so that was the case yesterday. around 2pm me and my boyfriend went out to shovel. and when we were halfway done our neighbor called me to the porch and she gave me and my man $50 for doing it for her.
we really needed the money so we accepted and thanked her. then finished shoveling for her. today when we got up we planned to go out and get some medical marijuana (i’m a medical patient and i suffer with chronic pain in my back and legs) , food and gas since we haven’t had much food due to me getting kicked off food stamps. when we got home me and my boyfriend were in our room when the new roommate f 50 something texted us. (to explain a bit me and my boyfriend live with his mom and his moms friend who recently moved in) she asked us if the neighbor paid us for shoveling and we said yes and she asked us how much we got and we said $50. she told us that we needed to bring the money to her because she said she deserved $35 of it.
she said that she went out there and shoveled for the neighbor twice so she is entitled to the money. we told her we already spent it. she got really mad at us for it and told us we needed to either pay her back later for the money we “took” from her or she would take my marijuana. to be clear she went out yesterday morning and shoveled our front porch and our porch only but today she shoveled the remaining snow on both sides of the walkway. but she did this today at 4pm and expected the money anyway. me and my boyfriend were out in the blizzard shoveling the 2 feet of snow for over 2 hours. she is making us pay her back now. or she said she would take my marijuana.
i will say this that she works at the dispensary i go to all the time and if she takes it from me im going to report her to the dispensary.
am i the asshole?
edit: i understand you all being confused about me shoveling when i have chronic pain, im forced to do so or his mom will kick me out and i dont want to be homeless during a blizzard.
NTA. She paid *you*. The roommate is tripping, and threatening your meds is illegal. Don’t give her a dime.
NTA When someone asks you about your financial business, they are usually fishing for funds. Nobody needs to know what you have in savings or what you’ve been gifted since they will usually ask you for what you have. In the future, do not communicate anything about your finances to this person.
You suffer from chronic pain in your back and legs but you went out shoveling snow all day….. OK
NTA. Neighbor paid you for the job you did at that time. The agreement was to pay you, not to retroactively also pay your roommate for the shoveling they already did. If your roommate feels entitled to be paid for the shoveling they did they need to go address it with the neighbor.
>You suffer from chronic pain in your back and legs but you went out shoveling snow all day….. OK
I have a chronic pain condition. Sometimes, we do stupid shit that everyone else can do because we want so badly to be normal. We end up paying for it later.
You are 23. She’s can’t just take away your weed as a “punishment” or something. Tell her next storm you’ll let her handle everything for the neighbor in case she pays again while you guys make your rounds. NTA
Info: why is someone with chronic back and leg pain shoveling?
You are the AH for not knowing what a paragraph is.
She can’t just take your weed. Just don’t hand it over
NTA
You all need to stop being so interconnected with his mom. For starters call her bluff. She can’t just take your property and if she tries to bar you from the dispensary or jack up the price you can just tell them what happened.
In the meantime tell her to go ask the old lady for money, watch her face go red because she knows for a fact the lady was not going to give her money. She was going to give the young couple that look like they needed cash the money. She is a mooch.
NTA.
>She told us that we needed to bring the money to her because she said she deserved $35 of it
Exactly how does she think she is entitled to any of the $50? She didn’t go out there and shovel a driveway. Don’t give the roommate anything unless she is willing to go out in that snow and shovel
FYI, get a small fire safe they have locks on them. Put anything you don’t want anyone to touch in it. Also they sell them at most retail stores. And inform your elderly neighbor that she is demanding the money that she paid you. And that she is claiming she deserves it. Never tell them you have money ever. NTA
I’m just amazed at the level of poverty, food insecurity, and fighting over weed exist without anyone mentioning this isn’t anything unusual.
To state the obvious, QUIT SHARING YOUR PERSONAL FINANCIAL INFORMATION! Just because she asked for the information that doesn’t mean that you automatically just giver her your personal financial information – stop doing this!
You have bigger problems than $50. Figure out a job and start saving so you don’t have to live with his mom.