Basically, she met this guy online a couple weeks ago and I swear they met in person once. So I don’t know this man, but she told me that every time we’re gonna hang out during spring break he’s invited. He’s invited to the beach. He’s invited to the fair. He’s invited everywhere and I’m not trying to hang out with her and some stranger. I’m unsure if I should just go hang out with them and try to make the most of it or not.
Why don’t you want to hang out with them?
Currently, yes you are you’re not even giving him a chance. Why don’t you meet him??? You say you don’t want to hang out with your friend and a stranger, so don’t make him a stranger? If after meeting him and chatting a bit you still don’t want to hang out then talk to your friend. But why aren’t you giving him a chance????
NTA, but your friend seems to have just started a new relationship and people tend to hang out with each other A LOT at that point. So, go along and meet him, and realize that he might be there every time you want to hang out with her, unless you ask her nicely to hang out – just the two of you- one other time.
After they have been together for a little while, you should be able to see her without him around at least some of the time. But for now, you’ll have to get used to it. Plan some stuff with other friends so it doesn’t bother you as much.
You’re not the asshole for not wanting to spend your whole spring break with some random guy you don’t even know, but it would be a bit asshole-y to bail last minute with a lie, especially if she eventually finds out that you lied about it. If you’re not comfortable with seeing this guy for all your plans, you need to have a conversation with your friend about it. She’s the one begging for quality time with YOU, not you and her new situationship. I’m not sure if she has a history of doing this and you’ve already had conversations with her in this regard, but she’s not respecting your time or what you want and if you both want to maintain a good friendship, it’s worth a conversation.
NTA for not wanting that, but it is what it is. You can’t force your friend to hang out with just you. Heck, you might get along with this stranger.
Make new hangout friends.
YTA – spend some time with them both, or you are being rude and blanking out an important part of your friend’s world.
That said, also sometimes say ‘lets just get together, you and me only’ – that’s a fair and healthy thing to do.
YTA for not even being willing to hang out with him *once*.
If you meet him and spend some time with him and your friend, he will no longer be a stranger. Funny how that works.
If you meet him and really dislike him, of course it’s fine to sit the rest of it out, but you haven’t even given him a chance. You have no idea if you’d like him or not.