I was asked to let me younger brother borrow my car and I really makes me anxious. Would I be an asshole to say no?
My brother’s car got hit while it was parked at a friends house and since he’s 17, he can’t drive a rental. My mom also was recently hit so she is also in a rental and can’t let him borrow her car. I live an hour from home so my mom asked if I could drive a rental while my brother drives my car. While he’s technically never been in an accident I know he likes to drive fast and tends to be a normal teenager in terms of caring for things. (The kind that will shrug and tell you “they know” if you tell them anything.) Also given that both of my family member’s cars have been hit in the last week, I am really anxious about lending mine since it currently hasn’t been in any accidents nor has any scratches on it. I plan to let him use it anyways because “that’s what family does” but I don’t know if my anxiety is founded or not.
Is it your car? (Did you pay it yourself or your parents)
Yes, I bought it after college and currently still working on the loan payments.
Yeah no.
Anxiety or not, logically all your family got into accidents except you.
I wouldn’t allow anyone to drive my car.
Of course your anxiety is founded.
The only way this makes sense is if you all have a shared insurance, like bundled, policy so really theres just this community of cars and but for his age, he would just use the rental but that does not seem like the case at all.
NTA.
There is no way that I would give my car to a 17 year old to drive, period. Let alone one who live an hour away.
NTA
You should NOT allow your brother to drive your car unless you have added him to your insurance and pay insurance for him to drive your car, in the USA. I feel certain you havent done this and if he ruins your car, or gets in an accident and hurts someone else or their property you would be legally responsible for the bills which would likely be tens of thousands of dollars.
Family helps family? Not when it hurts or has the potential to hurt or harm the one helping.
If your parents want him to drive a car, they can provide the car and be responsible for any damage he does. Of course they prob dont want him to drive THEIR car(s). Then they should rent a car or buy a cheap one and add him as a driver to the car. But in any case if they rent the car and allow him to drive it, and he wrecks they will be responsible if insurance wont pay because he was uncovered.
Lastly surely there must be other alternatives like public transportation, Uber, paying a friend to catch a ride with them. Etc
Is he insured to drive your car?
No. NTA. This is not the solution. The 17-year-old needs to get rides from friends, or take the bus.
NTA. Self preservation and wisdom are good things!