So, I (17f) am currently on a school ski trip with my friends (all 16&17f). When we got our room assignment, beds were chosen pretty quickly until only three beds were left. (Mind you that we have five beds and six people in the room.) Two of the beds are a double bed and one is the lower bed of a bunk bed. I made it pretty clear that I did not want to sleep in the double bed. Not because I don’t want to sleep together or anything, but I get very vivid dreams/nightmares and have a tendency for sleepwalking when I sleep in an unknown bed and/or room. I do not want to disturb anyone while sleeping, so I want the single bed. However, one of my friends also really wants the single bed because she doesn’t feel comfortable sharing a bed. Even though we’ve all known eachother for four years and have had multiple sleepovers. Now, I do respect how she’s feeling, but I really don’t want to step on someone in my sleep or smack them in the face.
After a short discussion, we decided that I am going to sleep in the single bed and my friend has to sleep in the double bed with another friend of ours, despite her feeling very uncomfortable with it. Now, some of my other friends are giving me shit for not respecting how my friend feels. I want to make clear that I would, in fact, not be uncomfortable sharing a bed, but I think it would be more enjoyable for all of us if I slept in the single bed.
So AITA For not giving up my single bed to my friend who was uncomfortable sharing a bed when I believed it would benefit us all if I didn’t hit someone in the head while I’m sleeping?
This is my first time posting, so I don’t know how this all works, but I really hope you can help me with this.
EDIT: I made a translation mistake, I said there were six beds, but there only are five beds, only one of them is a double bed.
UPDATE: Thank you to everyone who helped me out here. I brought up that someone else could share a bed with me and my best friend (who had been previously sleeping alone) agreed to share. She apologised for being kinda mean, and I apologised to my friend for overstepping her boundaries.
Thank you so much for your help!
you have 6 beds, why would you have to share?
They mean 6 sleeping spots. (They’ve said below English isn’t their native language)
YTA if we take it as fact that there is only one person truly uncomfortable sharing a bed, and only enough beds for one person to sleep alone, and you are actually all friends, then the only conclusion possible to draw is that you aren’t particularly good friends and don’t care about her discomfort.
If there are six of you and six beds, why does anyone have to share?
Exactly. This confused me as well.
I think they meant 6 spaces in beds.
Why would your friend get priority in this situation? Draw straws.
That actually is a very good idea.
NAH / either your other friends or your school are the AHs.
Your other friends should consider giving up one of their single beds so you both are okay / don’t disturb someone else’s sleep.
The school are kinda weird/AHs for booking *one* double bed and the rest as bunks/singles. What a nightmare for teens, a lot of people are uncomfortable sharing a bed at that age.
Every competition conference I ever went to in high school required sharing beds, about 6 times total, at 2 different schools. I agree, it’s very uncomfortable to share a bed with someone so I just slept on the floor, but it shouldn’t be the case in the first place.
NAH, you both have valid reasons for wanting the single bed, but I’d say go ahead, be the bigger person and let her have the bed, as there’s no guarantee you’ll actually act up in your sleep, but IF you end up stepping on someone or smacking them in the face just laugh it off and say “hey guys, I warned you this might happen! ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯ “