This happened in October but I thought I’d ask
I (21m) was with five of my buddies at one of their family’s lake house for a weekend. These are all people I’ve been very close to since high school, we did soccer together, I’ve lived with a few of them in college, etc. Though we had the house for the weekend, my friend’s dad was around the property doing some repairs from the house during one of the days. So basically he was working on the outside house and we were probably thirty feet away closer to the lake.
Anyway we were playing a drinking game called beer die, which involves throwing a dice in the air. After I had a couple beers, I stumbled while trying to catch one and accidentally ended up in a shallow part of the lake with roughly half of my jeans completely. We were only staying that one night so I only had the one pair of pants with me (I pack light) and I’d had a few beers, so I figured the solution was to lay my jeans in the sun to dry and go pantsless for an hour or two. For those asking why I didn’t ask my friends for spare pants please see my point about having had a few beers.
I did so, but let it be known i was wearing a sweatshirt that went about a quarter of the way down to my knee. So you could not see my crotch area but my underwear was short so it kind of looked like I just had nothing on. To be fair, if I lifted up my arm to throw a die you might get a quick full frontal view of my underwear but I doubt any of my boys were choosing to look there.
When I first did it most of the guys laughed. The guy whose house it was said “dude can we not?” But he was laughing the whole time. We quickly went back to the game. His dad came up to us at one point and asked if we needed anything from the store before he went home. He saw me and burst out laughing definitely didn’t seem bothered. He drove home and I went probably three or four ish hours like this.
Anyway that night we continued drinking and my one buddy said it would be different if we were still in college/just around people our age, but this was kind of out of line, especially around one guy’s dad. I talked to the guy who owned the house at the time and he said it was a little disrespectful but only because his dad was around. I said his dad didn’t give a crap. He said he objected at the beginning but to be fair he is always dry and sarcastic so that comment alone didn’t make me think it was a big deal. I also think he should’ve suggested something else if he thought it was a big deal. So was I the asshole an idiot or both?
You went on a weekend trip and didn’t bring any jeans other than the ones you had on your ass at that moment? YTA for that alone, change your draws
NTA , but what a tempest in a teacup. Guys playing drinking games but someone goes all prissy about one guy having bare legs …. weird.
Don’t take your clothing off at other people’s home without asking them first. You were drunk and did a stupid drunk thing. I think saying YTA is going too far so a very soft A.
NTA. But your friends all are if none of them offered you a pair of pants. Surely someone there had something extra for you to wear. If they were so concerned about you being pantsless, why didn’t they do something about it?
Your friends suck.
NTA. Not even remotely lol. At the end of the day, all of your bits were covered up. Also, there were no women there who could have possibly become uncomfortable. These guys are like brothers to you; I don’t get why they made it weird. Plus, who wants to hang around in wet jeans all day? This whole situation seems very PG compared to what some of my guy friends get up to. Don’t trip
YTA: And you should be more careful about drinking.
I mean honestly they sound like a bunch of prudes to me. I could be totally nude around my childhood friends and no one would blink, but what you or I might think isn’t what everyone things. Mild YTA cuz our own liberalness with our bodies isn’t always welcome and seemed to be immediately pushed back on.
YTA.
You say no one objected but also then state multiple times people objected and you just brushed them off. Them not wanting to cause a scene when their drunk friend is making a spectacle of themselves does not mean they were okay with you going around pantsless.
> please see my point about having had a few beers
That helps explains your behaviour but it does not justify it or make it okay. The appropriate response in this situation is to ask the person whose house it is if there’s anything you can change into while you pants dry and then (if possible) throw your pants in the dryer. You being so drunk you didn’t think of it doesn’t make your behaviour acceptable.
>I talked to the guy who owned the house at the time and he said it was a little disrespectful but only because his dad was around. I said his dad didn’t give a crap.
You don’t get to tell your friend what their dad did or didn’t care about. He knows his dad better than you do.
YTA.
This I totally agree with
That was actually disrespectful
> He said he objected at the beginning
YTA
You could have worn a towel around your waist.
No one wants your jocks on their furniture.
Edit: typo
YTA, even if you were a drunk A.
Your entire argument is that you think it’s okay to be pantsless in front of your friends because they were all too polite to tell you they weren’t comfortable with it. You dismissed what complaints you did get as jokes, and did what you wanted because no one outright told you to stop.
That’s cruddy reasoning.
You should have checked with them *first* to see if they were okay with you hanging out pantsless. Someone might have at least been able to find a towel or blanket for you to cover yourself with.
Based on my age, if I were ever to be involved in something similar to this, I would be the dad in the situation. I can tell you from that perspective that I would also be laughing my ass off. The only thing that would mildly bother me is the suggestion from the one friend that it was somehow inappropriate to do that around me. NTA
You admit you were drunk enough to not think about asking to borrow some pants, so it’s probable you were also drunk enough to not accurately gauge the other folks’ acceptance of your actions either.
If only a single guy complains, I guess up to you to decide this is the hill to be stubborn on, but it’s more than one. Just suck up your pride, do a simple group chat apology “sorry guys, I wasn’t thinking too clearly that other night. Didn’t mean to offend, I’ll try better next time.” And carry on.
Honestly, it kinda pisses me off when people take the stance of “fuck you, you’re overreacting, I’m not backing down!” Cus that escalates it from a simple unintentional misunderstanding, to intentional obstinance.