I needed to buy something off Amazon and I don’t have Prime, but my roommate does. I’ve never asked him this before, but I asked if I could his his Prime account to order an item from a sports brand for something I really wanted since without Prime, it would take 2 weeks to arrive + cost $20 in shipping fees. Prime is free shipping + 2 day shipping. I don’t really buy anything from Amazon, so I’ve had no reason for Prime until now. Roommate said no problem, I sent the link and he ordered it for our house then I sent him the money for the order.
Fast forward two days and the order arrives at our door. I was expecting it since I was excited for it so I take it inside. The package did not have Amazon packaging, but the logos of the sports brand all over the box. The package had his name on it, not mine, but I was 1000% sure the package was not his since he doesn’t watch sports, nor would EVER buy anything sports related especially not from this specific sports brand. I opened it and went about my day.
Roommate later that day texts me and is very upset that I "opened his mail". I explained the above but they stood firm and said "that package had my name on it and you opened my mail and you should not have done that". To keep the peace, I apologized, but I genuinely think I did nothing wrong. (I now know that you can edit the name on the package, but we didn’t know that at the time)
So AITA?
INFO so it was your package after all? If so, NTA; you and he both knew what it was. There’s no reason for him to be so hung up about it.
NTA. Solid move apologizing though, since he was doing you a favor.
NTA
You knew when the package would be coming and it was not in generic Amazon packaging.
Apologizing to keep the peace is fine. Just know you weren’t wrong.
If it had been a generic Amazon package, it would be different.
Next time also make sure the package is addressed to you. You can have multiple delivery addresses in Amazon so it would be trivial for your roommate to put your name on it at order time.
NTA if you knew it was your package. Good move apologizing to keep the peace. Next time have him put your name on it.
NAH you didn’t think it would be an issue because you were confident it was your package. However, your roommate has a right to ask you not to do that again, especially since you’re using his prime account for free, it’s a small price to pay to wait for him to come home and open the package.
Definitely nah. It was clearly your package. He was wrong to not put your name on it.
I’m pretty firmly in the ESH field.
Your roommate was fully aware of everything that happened, and even agreed to order the item for you, so it’s unfair to you that he’s flipping out about a package you ordered through him.
On the other hand, he isn’t super off-base for being upset, opening someone else’s package is a wildly illegal thing, and you should’ve called to be sure it was your item. Just as much as you think it isn’t something he’d get, he could have just as easily looked through similar items to what you ordered, and bought one himself.
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It is only illegal if it came via USPS, ie, US Mail.
If it was delivered via an Amazon truck, FedEx, UPS, etc., it is NOT illegal to open a package addressed to someone else. Unethical, yes, but not illegal.
NAH. You weren’t aware of the roommate’s boundaries with mail even packages ordered for you specifically. While I believe the roommate was unnecessarily upset, I will say it’s best to respect their boundaries and for legal reasons I would communicate with them in the future if you end up getting another package with their name on it. Just be like “hey, my package came in. Would it be alright to open it since it has your name on it?”
Roommate should’ve warned you about their preference in handling the package.
You should’ve checked in with them first.
Basically, y’all need to communicate more about these types of situations. Until then, it’s safer to assume you gotta check with them.
NTA.
Prime allows you to change the name, and even the address of each and every shipment. You can buy 12 items and have them shipped to 12 different addresses all in a single day. In the future if you ever “borrow” someone’s prime also ask that the package be sent to your first name.
NTA im tired of people acting like we are robots programmed with a set of rules that apply always. Like yes generally you don’t open someone’s mail but there are exceptions since you were 100% sure that it was yours from the packaging.
When sending a package to someone else, even in the same household you add their name to the address book in Amazon so it gets to the right person. I’ve never ordered anything for anyone else that I didn’t do that with.clwars up all confusion.
NTA.
You knew a package you ordered was arriving that day, it showed up at your door, and it was clearly from the exact brand you sent him. The only reason his name was on it is because it was ordered through his account. Most people in that situation would assume the same thing and open it.
You also didn’t go digging through random mail addressed to him. You opened a package you had paid for and were expecting. Once he said it bothered him, you apologized, which is already more than most people would do.
I get why he might feel weird about someone opening something with his name on it, but given the context it seems like an honest and pretty reasonable mistake.