Am I the ahole for playing it takes 2 with a gaming instead of my husband? For some context everyone in this story is in their 30s my husband and I have been together 18years total married for 8 and have 3 kids. My gaming buddy, we will call him GB and I met on Destiny about 3 years ago when him and another guy we don’t play with anymore found my twitter stream and asked me to join their clan. Husband also joined the clan but didn’t play with them as often as I did.
Fast forward for now and Destiny is pretty much a dead game but I still like to play games Espically with other people. My husband and I got It Takes 2 when it came out in 2021 with every intention of playing it together. After multiple starts we still have not finish the game. We get to maybe 70% and husband looses interest and is done. We don’t play for so long that then we start over when he decides he will play it again. For those that do t know you can only play it takes 2 with someone else. You can not play it by yourself. I have asked husband to play he says he’d rather play something else, I’ve told him I’m going to find someone else to play with he says fine. So I did I found someone else to play with and now my husband is pissed. He says I have the hots for GB who I have never met IRL I don’t know what he looks like I don’t even know his name and most certainly do not have the hots for him.
When we play together I have fun and I like playing with him. As a female gamer there are a lot of guys out there and they usually fall into 1 of 3 categories when it comes to playing with girl gamers 1 is the simp 2 is the patronizing guy who will play with you but tries to hold your hand and “teach” you how to play and 3 the go make my sandwich guy. And GB isn’t like any of them we play together and he respects my skill level and will help if I ask but isn’t patronizing or a simp. A stranger in the video game will that just treats a girl like a fellow gamer is hard to find so I asked GB to play with me and he was hesitant at first I said just beat the first boss with me then if you hate it I’ll drop it and he said ok and now my husband is pissed.
Apparently I’m begging GB to play with me because I’m hard up for him and desperate to play with him since the game we use to play together is dead and we don’t play together any more. I am so confused and idk how I am the asshole but he says it’s fucked up. Did I miss something? Am I the asshole?
Are you married to my ex? Holy hell. Play your game and your husband can F off. NTA.
NTA I don’t think. I don’t know anything about gaming but you engaging in a hobby of yours with a friend who also enjoys that hobby sounds perfectly reasonable to me.
More info though – in the ‘explanation’ comment you say the game is meant for couples. What does that mean?
It’s not necessarily that the game is “made for couples” but more so that the two characters in the game are a couple (not a very functional one, though). It is common for partners to play this game, but it’s not strictly *for* them.
I was wondering also, I’ve never heard of this game
From wikipedia: *It Takes Two* does not have a single player option. It is playable only in either online or local split screen cooperative multiplayer between two players. The game follows a couple transformed into living dolls as they attempt to find a way out while trying to mend their relationship.
One of my friends plays it and compared it to couples counseling. It’s a 2 player game where 2 characters are a couple that don’t get along and the players have to have them work together to beat the game.
I don’t think OP explained that well. It’s a co-op game that requires 2 people to play. The 2 main characters are a couple but it’s not really anything nefarious.
This is why you don’t marry your high school boyfriend.
I’m gonna go with NTA because you said you asked your husband first and he said he didn’t care. I can see his issue or insecurity as the whole concept of it takes 2 is building a stronger relationship with the person you’re playing with. I wonder if he would care if you game with this person on another game that isn’t quite the same storyline. For those unaware the whole storyline of the game is a separated couple are shrunk into dolls and have to complete challenges together to try to get back to humans to be there for their super sad daughter. I’ve not finished the game yet myself with my husband,
But as far as I’ve gotten I can understand why your husband could be annoyed.
NTA, as long as there aren’t complicated feelings about GB on your end — and based on everything you’ve described, it genuinely doesn’t sound like there are
That said, your husband said “fine” but clearly didn’t mean it, so it would be good to get on the same page about that. Continuing to play while he is significantly stressed about could drift into YTA territory not because of gaming per se, but for ignoring his concerns. Have the convo
NTA – did he expect you to find a female to play that game with? Also is it actually like a couple counseling type game? (That’s what a friend compared it too)
NTA your insecure husband can’t be bothered to play with you, even say “whatever go play with someone else” then cry cause you do?
It takes 2 is a video game that is kind of a crash course in relationship skill like communication and teamwork. It’s about a couple on the brink of divorce who are shrunk into dolls and they have to repair their relationship to break the spell.
Well it depends on the context of your communication with this other guy. Could your communication with this guy be considered inappropriate or flirty. . It also depends on how much time you spend playing the game with this other guy. Are you spending more time playing this game with this guy than you are spending with your husband. Is the amount of time for each even close. Also, how did your husband find out that it was a guy you are playing with. Did you tell him upfront or did you not tell him and he just found out. If you weren’t upfront with your husband, he could think you were hiding it from him.