Aita for queuing for ranked marvel rivals solo without my friend?
Obligatory this is a throwaway.
It seems silly but I think this has genuinely ruined a friendship? I must’ve messed up bad, but I don’t understand what I did.
I 22(M) and my best friend 23(F) play marvel rivals together frequently. It’s gotten to be basically every night lately. She’s my best friend, but I don’t like having frequent hangouts so often. I like having alone/quiet time on my own a few times a week, but it was important to her to hangout so I did.
We’re currently climbing up to diamond for the ranked rewards. I legitimately don’t mind doing this whenever we play together. During our last hangout session this previous Thursday she tells me “you’re probably better off queuing solo if you want to climb.”
So on Friday I do that, I play ranked alone. She asks to play QP and I apologize and say I’m doing ranked solo tonight.
She ignored me all weekend after that, even when my dog had a medical emergency that I texted her about. She loves my dog almost as much as I do. Today I got a text saying she doesn’t wish to talk to me anymore and needs space.
I’m confused. I don’t know what I did. I know I probably should’ve just played with her, but she told me to do it alone. I would’ve played with her next time.
Aita for not playing with her? We’ve been playing daily for almost three months. I didn’t think one day would be a friendship ender. I’m hurt and upset but don’t want to poke her to ask why when she’s asked for space.
NTA. You’re entitled to play alone if you want, especially since she herself told you that it might be better to solo queue.
She’s your best friend, you know her better than us. NTA if this is all over a game, but it may not be.
I get the feeling something else must be going on behind the scenes, but I don’t want to push it when she obliviously doesn’t want to talk. I’m more worried now than anything.
NTA for doing what she asked but what she told you and what she actually meant could have been two different things. Did she need extra help to get to diamond? Does she have feelings and views it as a rejection?
You are personally in the clear but you may just have to ask to get a true answer.
She’s got diamond without me before, she’s just struggling this season for some reason. I don’t think it’s feelings as I’m not available. I’m scared to ask while she’s mad and make things worse.
You play together “almost daily”, and she’s ending the friendship because you played solo for *one night*?
She seems…needy at best and controlling at worst.
NTA – and don’t ask her about it; it’s on her to explain herself if she wants to renew your friendship.
That’s why I’m so confused. It’s also not like I was saying no forever. I just took one night to play solo.
There may be something else going on, but it’s up to her to bring that to the table.
Trying to dig for answers she doesn’t want to give will NOT end well.
If you have been playing together daily for the past 3 months and all the sudden decide not to. I’m gonna say YTA.