My mom came into my room last night at 2 am and began threatening to break my 2500 AED monitor, which she bought for me as a gift during the Christmas of my final year of school, if I don’t stop playing my ranked game immediately, even though I told her that the game needed 10 more minutes.
Mind you I am 21 years old and I have a class at 9:30 am, the reason why she got so angry is because I had slowly been failing university courses to the point now that I’m having to repeat a year. Because of the fact that I am failing I decided to try and fix myself this year in terms of taking steps in improving myself, waking up to every class (which I had been doing for the first 2 weeks of uni except for 1 day), making small personal review vlogs for every day, and try to help out with her work more. I will be the first person to say that I have messed up many times such as waking up late during the weekends to help her out at work and sometimes forgetting about some sort of deadline, but I believe that I’ve shown many cases in which I have been trying to better myself, asking during the weekdays when and where she needs me for her work and beginning to fully commit to doing very well this semester.
Long story short she said that if I don’t turn off the game immediately then she would break it which I, knowing she would really do it, told her to go ahead she grabbed my deodorant and broke my screen with it. In reaction to this I removed the HDMI cable and threw the entire thing on the ground and smashed it all over the floor twice, my hand got badly cut in this process. We continued by screaming at each other as she went back to her room and pretending to sleep, my sister had woken up by this point and sides with my mother completely, I tend to my hand on my own stopping the bleeding and applying antibiotic to it neither my sister nor my mother care for me in this case so I decide to ignore them too. I start cleaning up the mess, during this time my sister says something that truly hurt me to my core by saying "it’s not that hard everyone in the world graduates".
When I’m done I notice my hand continuing to bleed so I decide that by going to the ER I can clear my head and tend to my hand. I spent the rest of the night until 5 am at the ER due to my insurance taking forever to approve, then I grab something to eat and get back home, sleeping at 6:30 am. I wake up the following day to a call from my mom saying "didn’t you say that you’d wake up to uni today and get to your class" I respond "maybe if I didn’t get back home at 6 am from the ER due to my hand then I would’ve made it". I didn’t attend my first class but went to my second class and now we are here. AM I THE ASSHOLE.
ESH You should have been in bed by 2 or 3 hours at that point. You are not trying very hard to fix yourself; you are breaking your word while your mother is bankrolling you.
Your mother reacted inappropriately and wastefully. The consequence did not fit your behavior. More appropriately she could have told you she’d stop paying for college and throw your ass on the street if you don’t start behaving. You only lost a ranked game and a gaming PC so I think ylu got a good deal.
And of course you are the asshole for smashing the monitor. Oh no your poor hand that you cut yourself while acting like an angry ape. You have only yourself to blame.
If she’s the one paying for his tuition, he’s repeating a year for failing it once already and I can see why she’s annoyed. People aren’t really at their most rational at 2 in the morning, and someone saying ten more minutes is what you’d expect of a kid.
I get it, but threatening destruction (and going along with destruction) still makes her an asshole. Justified asshole if you will.
She’s right but she’s also wrong for escalating.
Yeah dude you’re the asshole. You say that you’re making an effort to wake up earlier and attend classes, but you’re staying up til 2am playing ranked Val? You’re already on track to graduate late and you’re setting yourself up for failure by staying up that late. I agree that your mom threatening to break your monitor was a bridge too far, and yall could have talked about that, but then you got so angry that you broke it yourself and fucked your own hand up. You’re a 21 year old man talking to your mother like an entitled teenager when all she really wants is for you to take college seriously and graduate and better yourself as a person. College is expensive man, and if you’re having to retake a year’s worth of courses then that will be hurting yalls wallet. No more screen time after midnight, seriously.
So your mom lets you stay with her, buys you kit that should help you with your course, and you use it to play until 2 AM and are proud of making almost every class in a year that’s not even a month old?
YTA. She shouldn’t have smashed your screen, but she’s probably out of her mind worrying about when you’ll get the message that this is not how you complete a course you’re already struggling with.
Don’t know if you work to support your rent or pay your own tuition fees, but you probably depend on her a lot financially, too, and she gave you a huge gift that you were using to rank in a tournament at 2am and do vlogs rather than study.
“I have been overall failing.
I promised I would change my habits that kept me failing.
I kept the habits and got angry when confronted on it.
I hurt myself in absurd tantrum, then dealt with direct consequences of what I did.
I blame everybody else for it. AITA?”
That’s how I see it. YTA.
100% the asshole, especially if she’s the one paying (doesn’t state in post) for you to fail out of university and the one having to pay for you to go another year although your 21 I can see where her frustration lies. if your paying for your own college then that’s your money to be wasted and at 21 your mom shouldn’t even care.
YTA
How are you 21? This is a tantrum that a 4 year old would throw.
You are failing classes.
You have bad habits.
You prioritized games that won’t pay the bills over classes and starting a career.
You broke your game (and don’t give me the “she did it first” crap because you can’t control your temper or your actions).
You cut your hand.
You missed class.
Do you see a connection? Grow up.
YTA, prioritising playing games instead of concentrating on your studies makes you the TA.
YTA. You know you’re already in a tough situation between your sleep schedule and your uni schedule. You don’t fix that by continuing the habits making the situation tough, you set a healthier sleep schedule that doesn’t involve late night/early morning gaming (is it worth the grief that its given you?). If you’re saying “ten more minutes” at 2 am when repeating a year due to failing it once already, you’ve got a problem and need to own up to it. Plus, you breaking the monitor out of frustration doesn’t help your case.
Also, paragraphs make easier reading than a wall of text.
Yes YTA, my mother would’ve kicked me out if I’d lived with her during uni and failed a year because I prioritised video games over my entire future. this is a ridiculous situation. go apologise to her and get your shit together. i know 21 is young and you’re still learning/making mistakes, but you need to start sorting yourself out PROPERLY.
yta man. your mum couldve handled it better but shes coming from a place of concern and care
youre already failing and doing the same dumb shit
YTA
you’re failing uni and half blaming someone else. It’s time to grow up and learn to manage your time and go to bed a decent time for you to wake up.
Your mother shouldn’t have screamed and broke your pc but you then proceeded to throw a tantrum like a toddler, went to the er and after all your fuck ups you have the gall to say xdxd if I didn’t come back from the er at 6am I would have woken up for uni xdxd