I, now M34, have recently discovered why my father’s side of the family blocked me from all family fathers and social media.
For years I tried to connect with my father’s side of the family without success. I wouldn’t be invited to gatherings nor events.
As I got older I just accepted it but then my cousin was getting married and we were invited and it made me so happy to go and see.
During the wedding I was able to get all of my father’s siblings together for a group picture to hold onto.
As a happy millennial, I shared the picture on Facebook of my father’s siblings together as the last time they were together was over 20 years ago!
Time went on and I was just cheerful… Until a couple months later my uncle in law passed away and my family received the news BUT not only was I not invited… I was banned from going to the funeral.
I was confused as I saw nothing about the funeral and wanted to reach out to family members for clarity when I noticed every single one of my father’s family members unfriended and blocked me so I cannot see anything.
I had no idea what happened and accepted it and went on with my daily life.
And now a couple years later my aunt, the only who I communicated still with and was kinda the black swan of the group, passed away.
In the conversation my father had with his siblings he discovered that they all blocked me because I shared that picture I held so deeply as it was "unflattering".
Did something I saw so much beauty in cause so much anger? And I still today cannot see anything unflattering about such a picture.
Should I have asked permission first? Possibly. I wasn’t concerned due to all the pictures they posted.
Am I the asshole for posting a picture or were they already disliking me and now have something to use as an excuse?
NTA; they sound like they were just looking for an excuse to cut you off.
ESH. If an “unflattering” photo was all that it required for them all to cut you off they either have a hair trigger, some of them don’t want their pictures out there for a serious reason or something else was off and they used this as an excuse.
However, don’t overshare things on social media. Especially with this generation, you need to ask permission first. The picture wasn’t about you, it didn’t have you in it and all you did was expose them online. Imagine one of them had been running from someone (like an abusive ex) and you just exposed them?
They should have talked to you about it though and not just cut you out of their lives.
Edit: typos
To be fair they might have figured that any explanation would wind up in the next Facebook post.
This makes no sense
The picture was an excuse most likely, There’s definitely another reason they decided to cut him out of their lives that he doesn’t know about🤔
NTA, I too have a crazy side of the family that will “cut you off” for no reason. There’s no world where a simple unflattering picture is reasonable to cut someone off with no explanation and ban them from funerals for years
Nta. It sounds like most people on your dad’s side has some family/ generational trauma. Or they’re just plain weird. Either way, as much as it might hurt, I would cut my losses as far as reconnecting is concerned.
Yup I have relatives like that. I refer to them as my relatives instead of family because real family is the people who care about you and would never treat you that way
NTA, they just never liked you.
Yeah I feel like there’s a deeper reason that they’re not sharing which sucks because if you have a problem with someone why can’t they act like adults and say so?🤦🏻♀️I have some family that’s the same way they get mad about something but won’t communicate what or when, they’d rather just act like a child and ignore you
Sorry to hear that but I think something else is happening or maybe there’s some weird rumors about you and they don’t trust you.
There’s no way that anyone on here can know if this was the real issue or the straw that broke the camels back, we can only go off what you tell us .
But the fact that each and every one of them removed you as a friend/follower and blocked you means that they did it for a reason. You might not know what it is, or maybe you do.
ESH
What a bunch of words and he said nothing