I’m a 15-year-old boy, and my girlfriend (15F) is being forced by her parents to go to a Danish efterskole for the 26/27 school year. She doesn’t want to go. We’ve tried for months to stop it, but her parents don’t care. She’s even hurt herself to avoid going.
At one point, I pretended to be her mom and withdrew her from the school. When I told her, she took screenshots, blocked me, and told her mom. She has now been re-enrolled. We’re still in contact and still together.
This affects me a lot emotionally. I feel like we’ve lost, even though she says we haven’t. She’s the one going, but isn’t it easier to be the one who leaves?
I’ve also been reported to the police for this.
A little extra context: Efterskole is a Danish boarding school for teens with strong social life, parties, and limited phone access. Students live there for a year, form new friendships, and explore independence and relationships.
AITA for what I did?
Yes you are the asshole, your relationship with your gf is so toxic. You need help now, you are not in a good state of mind.
Dude yta. Just move on from her. That was so creepy to have done that 😭
Yes YTA. You have no right to circumvent the wishes of a child’s parents.
OBVIOUSLY YTA. Sweet Jesus, she didn’t even know you were doing this??
I really hope there’s legal consequences for what you’ve done, of course YTA
Sounds like your girlfriend didn’t want you to do that, since she blocked and reported you for it. So yes YTA for going again her wishes.
YTA I hope they get a restraining order against you, you’re unhinged LOL
YTA. Mostly to yourself. You committed a crime for the stupidest of reasons, and without your girlfriend’s approval.
YTA. Puppy love is cute until you interfere and make decision that can negatively impact somebody’s life. It is pretty obvious you only did it so you can stay together. If her parents enrolled her in a boarding school, they had their reasons. Sounds like they see you as a bad influence.
YTA and also… wtf? That is some whackadoo behavior. You don’t just pretend you are your teenage GF’s literal parent?! In what reality would that plan have ever actually worked for anyone???
YTA you don’t get to decide these things for your GF unilaterally. You are just as controlling as her parents
YTA and this behavior is very concerning. Obviously your GF didn’t want you to do that. You have bigger things to worry about than a relationship. You could be arrested and do time.
YTA. Lmao at 15 years old that shit is none of your business.
YTA – why are you saying she didn’t want to go when she obviously did when she reported you and then re-enrolled. You are also a child, you do not get to go around a parents decision for their child.
You also don’t get to control someone else’s life. Period.
I’m trying to say this kindly – you need help. You need to talk to someone. This behaviour isn’t normal and you could ruin your life with these actions. You’re 15. Worry about being 15 and not being in a relationship. Life is a long road and you’re going to meet a lot of different people. You’re too young for this much drama.