My husband and I are both 38 and we have a 9 year old and a 7 year old. Now that Christmas is coming up, he’s gotten to gift shopping and for some reason he always tells our kids about what he plans to get me. Obviously he tells them not to tell me, and our 9yo gets the concept but the 7 year old lets it slip sometimes.
I’m pretty curious about wanting to know what he’s getting me, so I asked my 7 year old, because I know she knows. It’s never really specific but it’s something. While I was trying to say, probe that info out of her, my husband overheard and he got pretty upset, saying I "always do this." Which, I will admit I do ask the kids to tell me what he’s getting me if they know, in exchange for a brownie or, five.
AITA? Because we’ve been goign back and forth on this, and I don’t think its neccesarily a huge deal. But he thinks it is.
YTA for putting pressure on your child to reveal something he asked her not to tell. Even leaving out his feelings on you spoiling the surprise, that’s a crappy thing to do and tells your kids you don’t value them keeping the trust of people who tell them secrets