I’m on a throwaway because my dad knows my Reddit lol.
My dad has 3 kids- my brother (29M), me (25F), and my sister (22F). My stepmom, Erica, also has 3 kids of similar ages. They married when I was still young so it’s a very well-blended family.
My brother lives across the country with his wife and kids. My 2 oldest step-siblings have also moved states. For years, Dad and Erica’s house here was used as a place for us to gather. It wasn’t that often that everyone could come back at once, but it did happen. Those are some great memories.
They always said when the last kid was gone, they were starting a new adventure. Last year they picked their favorite city and moved there. It was sad, but I always knew it was coming. I’m so used to hopping on a plane to visit family by now that I was like “what’s one more place to go”.
Here’s the thing though, their current place is *tiny*. They live in a big city so I expected small, but not this small. There’s barely room for 1 visitor and it’s not comfortable. My brother would need a hotel which makes visiting family so expensive. The parents have been visiting us kids individually but it’s not the same. Nobody has the space to host everyone, and we haven’t all been together in forever.
They are moving again next year. Dad’s been sending me apartments in the new city and I noticed they are all just as freaking small. He’s very transparent with me about finances and I know their budget. I’ve shown him townhomes *well* within their budget. This isn’t that.
His thing is that the kids are so busy and they don’t want all that space sitting empty for most of the year, and he uses the lack of visits in his current city as proof that it would. Personally I’d fly out once a month if they had the space for me, and I know some siblings agree.
My sister agrees but told me I’m pushing the issue too hard, and I think that means my dad said something. I’m trying to stay in my lane while also not losing all hope of us altogether again (hello holidays).
Am I so out of line here? AITA for pushing my dad to get a bigger place?