So me and my friend are doing a dance for a class I am in. The exam is essentially I had to teach an outside person the moves we learned and thats how it is being graded and stuff. I approached said person lets call them K 7 weeks ago and they agreed to be my dance partner. I had been patient as she was not able to practice until the week of the exam. She then on the day of the exam had a bank meeting which the teacher understood and gave us until grades are due. I was emailed and told her that we had until 5 today to do the dance. She planned to come over at 4 but the shifter on her car broke about 30 mins ago. So I offered to go over to there place cause we live close by they said their dad doesn’t like visitors. So then I offered to pick her up and drop her off she said that made her uncomfortable. Then i offered to pay for an uber for her she said that also made her uncomfortable. She then said we have done all we can do and she is sorry. I then proceeded to keep telling her we need to figure something out but I seemed to hit a nerve. So AITA.
I don’t understand the caption as opposed to the narrative.
OP meant pushing as in pressuring, not physically pushing.
NTA. It sounds like K didn’t really want to do it and wanted to find excuses not to. Sorry to hear your friend flaked on you.
NTA this was for your grade, not hers.and she agreed to help,your friend sounds like one of those group project people who tries to weasel out of it,so you did what you had to do, I find it impressive,honestly.sometimes we need to push friends who try to turn into turtles
Tentative ESH. She should have just told you she could not or didn’t want to. You should have just found a different partner the second it was obvious she wasn’t available to practice.
Without more context it sounds like they might have not been comfortable from the start and didn’t think they could safely say no.
> I approached said person lets call them K 7 weeks ago and they agreed to be my dance partner. I had been patient as she was not able to practice until the week of the exam.
On week 5 or 4 is when you say “hey, thanks for agreeing but if you don’t have time, you don’t have time. No hard feelings, but let me see if I can find someone with more free time”
> we need to figure something out
No. YOU needed to figure something out.
YTA. Your grade was on the line, so this is you waiting till last minute. You gotta take more command over your education.
I mean, I would also say agreeing to do something at a certain day and time and then just outright ditching the person you made that agreement with is an asshole move.
It seems so minor in comparison what OP was risking for me. Once they say instead of 7 wks, we would have only 1 it was time to cut your loses.
NTA, but you needed to pick a different partner as soon as she said she couldn’t practice until the week of. Never leave a project until the last minute like that. As I said, you’re not an *asshole*; however, if you get a bad grade, it’s all on you. This is your class, not hers, and it’s your responsibility to be prepared for the final.
NTA
She made a commitment, and she should do all she possibly can to honor it.
She failed at this in a very big way.
NTA
AH? No.
Unwise? Absolutely. You should have started looking for someone different as soon as this “partner” proved herself to be unreliable.
One of the lessons you learn as a teacher is that not everyone wants to learn. You may not be the A, but neither are they.
NTA. There was a deadline to be met and you offered all kinds of viable solutions.
ESH. The minute they couldn’t even practice you should have found a backup person. It’s your grade on the line and you chose someone that would rather make excuses than flat out tell you they weren’t interested. They should have been more honest but you should have found someone else instead of sitting around for 6 weeks waiting for them