Okay so I go to a gym with a small pilates room and in that pilates room there are only a couple of reformers in the room so its not uncommon for there to be a small line and I was pretty much waiting 10 minutes for this girl to finish which honestly I don’t mind because it gives me a chance to rest after lifting weights.
But after she was done with the reformer, she got up and it was DRIPPING with sweat like it was completely soaked I don’t even know how there was so much sweat so I assumed she got up to get a towel and wipe it down but she never came back so I ended up cleaning it myself.
I usually don’t mind a bit of sweat but this was ridiculous but I finished doing a quick ab workout on the reformer and as I left I put in a complaint to the front desk because I don’t think it’s fair that people have to clean up after others but when I told my boyfriend about he said I shouldn’t do that sort of thing and it comes off as very bitchy which made me pretty upset
NTA, it’s gym etiquette to clean after exercising. Especially if you are that sweaty.
That’s how I see it I don’t expect people to always have a towel but if you leave a pool of sweat I feel like it should be your responsibility to clean it
NTA … gym etiquette
NTA – Your boyfriend’s comment is an outdated perception that discourages women from standing up for themselves.
Now that you mention I don’t really like that he didn’t back me up or explained why just called me a bitch
Start looking at all the other times he disrespects you, calls you names – particularly sexist ones, and fails to have your back in reasonable situations.
Get on your library’s wait list or pre-order Burn The Haystack. It will be released in a month in both text and audio format. It’s written primarily as a way to filter men when online dating, but the rhetorical patterns still apply once you’re in a relationship. Use that to help you look at your boyfriend’s priorities and behavior and decide if he’s the right person for you to build a future with.
NTA
She is supposed to clean. Also, let’s talk about your bf. Why would he even say that to you? Does he think you come of that way often? Not ok!
Thank you all these posts are making me feel less guilty and vindicated
NTA, just by the title. I have people like this at my gym and no one does anything about it.
I feel like you should have told her first and if it happened again then tell the front desk but either way. NTA
NTA
People sweat when they exercise, it’s natural and nothing to be ashamed of. What this girl SHOULD be ashamed of is not cleaning up after herself.
Yellow flag on your boyfriend for thinking that you should ‘keep the peace’ when someone is displaying clearly unacceptable behaviour, when your response was entirely appropriate.
Does your bf like you? It’s wild that he thinks it’s your job to clean up after a RANDOM STRANGER and that he is so comfortable telling you that standing up for yourself makes you a b****h. You could have also asked the gym staff to clean it. They have the right materials to do so. What you described sounds gross. I am also assuming here that you did not spend those 10 minutes while waiting staring at her in a “when are you getting off” way.